From Self-Love to Self-Worth: My Ongoing Journey of Healing

 I’m going through a tough time—one that has challenged everything I believed about self-love. For the longest time, I thought self-love was enough. But on this journey of deep transformation, especially through coaching and personal growth, I’ve come to realize that self-love alone isn’t always the magic answer we hope it will be.

Like many others, I grew up with the basics: food on the table and a roof over my head. That was what was expected, and that was what was given. In my era, doing chores was seen as the elders’ responsibility, and anything I did was not necessarily acknowledged or appreciated. I followed that mindset too. I did my best to take care of my family, putting aside my own ambitions and needs, hoping—maybe even expecting—that someone would see, appreciate, and love me for it.

But that appreciation never really came. Instead, my efforts were seen as my duty. I became “the responsible one,” especially after my sister was married off at 21. I was only 11 then, but I was already expected to step up—to be the adult, to lose my childhood. It was the norm in those days, and in a world where emotional awareness wasn’t common, most people didn’t even know what they were missing.

For a long time, I felt alone in my path. Don’t get me wrong—I’m not here to blame anyone. I used to. But now, I’m learning to accept that my parents only did what they were taught. They passed down the beliefs they knew. And now, it’s up to me to break the cycle.

Because I’m racing against time, my breakthrough journey has had to be intense. That made it a hundred times harder. I went from disappointment, to anger, and now... to acceptance. I’m learning to see all of this as part of my growth. I used to do what I thought I had to, just to avoid punishment or to be seen as the “good girl,” the one who honored her family. But without love within, I went looking for it outside—and that only left me feeling more empty.

Can you relate to that?

Now, I’m shifting. From self-love to self-worth. I’m picking up the pieces of myself. I’m learning to forgive myself for carrying burdens that were never mine to begin with. I’m setting boundaries that feel right for me—not based on fear or guilt, but on respect and value.

I’m sharing this because I know I’m not alone. And if my journey can bring even a little bit of light to someone else’s path, then it’s worth it.

In my program, Let’s Talk, Be Heard with Peggy Ang @ 91deas, I combine Bazi (Chinese metaphysics), coaching, oracle work, and even BaZi drawing to help others reconnect with their true selves and step into their worth. If my story resonates with you, and you feel ready to take that step, send me a message with “I am ready” to:
📩 self-worthworl91@outlook.com

You deserve more than just survival. You deserve to thrive.  You are not ALONE.I will walk with you.

Peggy Ang@91deas


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