Are you thinking?

 I do not mean to be rude when I asked are you thinking. It is something that I do intensely since my holidays started. I used to be a very busy person and all of a sudden, I took 3 months off to be with my daughter.

I was never a homebody and from the time my girl was born, I was always juggling time to ensure that I have time reserve for my daughter. However, my job as a travel agent bring me out of town most of the time. She is left on her own and somehow that have trained her to be independent. This is good for me because even though I am away from her, I know that she will always be responsible for her own life.

Now I have so much time in hand that it does not matter whether it is sunrise or sunset. Most important thing is that every moment I am spending on enjoying the things I do. I started to cook for my daughter, clean up the place she rented and doing what mother can do in her ability. I am good at my career managing companies and coaching individual. This is really a new task for me. Luckily, I still have frequent coaching sessions that keep me occupied with plenty of things to work on. My salute to all full-time mothers and fathers, you really are incredible. I am only doing this motherly on part time and I am climbing the walls already.

Coaching on the other hand is very rewarding. In a trusted environment, both my participants and me shared many interesting sessions. At the end of each session, it always leaves me with a smile because they know what they want to achieve at their own pace. They are superb in handling their own tasks and spontaneously bounce back when faced with obstacles. Initially, they might apologize for not completing the tasks however they know what they should do therefore we no longer embark on any apologetic conversation. Is there a need to be right or wrong? In coaching, we just work together to ensure that the participants always aware of their choices and the consequences. They do not expect perfection but they strive for completion at their best.

Coaches are also human and, in our life, we also have many challenges. Without those challenges life will be pretty boring. Life should be like the heartbeat on the monitor during an exciting game. It should raise and fall according to sentiment and emotion. An effective coaching session involve all the feelings, intense listening and also commitment without judgement towards our participants. At the end, we should be able to arrive at a point where they achieve their ah-ah moment. Coaches do not provide answers. Good coaches make sure the participants are able to walk confidently on their platform of life after each session. People might be wondering then where will I get my next customer/participant? I never worry about this because in a world of 7.9 billion population, I only wish I can help more. Each one that I coach successfully will help me to launch another journey of help a new person in their life. It is not a business for me but a contribution to the society.

So, do you want to be the sunrise or the sunset or does it really matter? Keep thinking on what you like to build. No matter how much you love your children, they will need to have their own life and you have to start living a life you want. I am doing the same. reach out to the unknown and without expectation make life interesting.

One world, different clouds.

 Interesting on how people view things from different background of teaching. I said teaching because, most of us are taught to think. Of late, I began to realized that many people are thinking on the same line and feel that nothing new to learn from anymore. When one incident happened, the whole nation goes into chaos because another country is doing something about it. I think many will just follow because do not want to look stupid. Do you think it is right or wrong?

You could be wondering where I am going with this article after my inconsistent of posting. My sincere apology because I gave my lap top a holiday when I am on holiday. I just happened to borrow some time with my daughter's laptop and decided to write. Anyway, I was very curious about how I live my life before. This is an enlightening time for me as I just celebrated my daughter's 21st birthday. In other words, I can fully trust her to manage her life with wisdom because it is her to own. This nostalgia time brings back sweet and sour feeling. I have to revisit my past to enjoy the fruit of my struggle. Precious past.

One world, different clouds - my title for this is to recall that each step my daughter took is in some way similar to mine. We are similar in the beginning except the process is totally different for both of us. Her only advantage is that I am here if she needed anything. However, glad to know that she did not need anything from me. This is a very new feeling. To let go of a child which I have always protect under my wings. It took me some time to adjust that she has a life of her own. A life she designed very well without our family support. I am proud of her success that she managed to travel all the way from Malaysia to The Netherlands for the first time and still comfortably settled in a good environment suitable for her education.

Now, the mummy part of me is where I must adjust. When I arrived, I have to adjust to the time and also the busy schedule that she has which I cannot fit in. I am left with plenty of time to roam the city on my own. Taking the tour alone gives me a freshness of freedom. Freedom to do what I like. I just noticed that I forgot to be myself for a long time. I am still searching for my new hobbies since I have so much time to explore.

It is like cycling. I know how to cycle but when I am cycling in The Netherland, it all become a new experience again. I have to learn to use the leg brakes and cycle on the right. It is really tough and after doing it for a few days, I give up. I value my life more than challenging the cycling path. Walking is healthier and easier. But.... I will appreciate the time I go cycling when I am back home instead of taking that for granted.

Therefore, I am learning to live my life as my own again. Pretty exciting right? I have time to reflect on what I did that give me this life of abundance. A lot of sacrifice and painful journey. Some mistakes that cannot be undone while each taught me a lesson or two. Everything has a cause and effect. Is your life offering you any bonuses like mine?

If you are hitting the wall now, think about what will be the best outcome you can get once you overcome this barrier. The fruit is always sweeter.

Nevertheless, I am getting a lot of value by coaching people into their own journey with choices that they make with clarity. With the coaching conversation, there never seems to be any obstacles that stop us from having a good life. I wish more people wake up to the fact that life is always in our own control. We will only know the result maybe in years to come or maybe never but at the time of decisions, everything is always very clear.

Keep Shining

 I have never taken a holiday, the holiday where I do what I want and go where I want to go. I started with one long holidays for 3 months beginning of November 2021. Pandemic taught me a few lessons and some I am still learning. This is the first time I took 3 months off doing nothing except occasional coaching session. To me, coaching people towards success is not a job or a career but a mission to create a coaching culture in my community. As a coach, my promise to myself is to see that my clients face their problems with eagerness because they know they have the solutions.

First and foremost, it taught me to appreciate the nature. I have not reached a stage where I am doing great things but I learned to view things as it come. Things are always beyond expectation when I do not expect anything at all. Isn’t this great.

Secondly, I reflect on the things said and done every time I feel that I could have done it in another way. Better? Not necessarily but it really gives me a different kind of feeling when I dig in further. Nothing is really bad or good but it is how we learn from these that makes us realize what life can be. By doing this, I am always in the good hands of myself. I let go of many unpleasant feelings as fast as it come. I cannot change people, which I should not be doing. I am only getting better of myself every second of the day.

Thirdly, I learn to let go. By doing this, I do not need to be in control of anything. Wanting to control anything have always put me in the place of dissatisfaction. This is very harmful in a long run but many did not realize this. They think that when they are in control they will become powerful. It could be true but how many really stay in control before the truth comes back to haunt you down. I have lived a life of being in control, thinking that I can help them by lining up the route for them. This is my biggest mistake of all. Luckily, I recovered this now. Maybe it is late discovery but I guess it is better now than never.

There are more towards living a life of abundance but it will only pop up when the time is right. I am 55 years old now and to have these pop ups, I have to work harder. I have to coach and be coach on specific topics to make my realization earlier.

My only hope is that everyone finds their sunshine and shine no matter what happen. Miracles happen in the worst of time. Do not wait for the moment to act. Create the moment. Place value in time to discover your inner self and you will have abundance.

Which is what?

I used to post #cloudstory when I was home but now the clouds are rare occasions in Groningen. The expression of sky is so mysterious and the wind is blowing them away aggressively. The best of everything is to have and enjoy the moment.

With the lockdown looming with the hike in the cases, I have the opportunity to chill out and test with my skill on sketching. Therefore, you will notice the difference in the actual between a real painting and my sketching. That is the main purpose of life. To be who you are is to appreciate what you have and use your talents to the fullest.

In my coaching session, a wonderful participants keep putting the things he done as below average. Now, let me ask you a question. When you compare yourself to others, what are you looking at? What you want to achieve with this comparison? What is your feeling after that? Answer your 3 second soul questions. Any longer time taken to answer these questions are the decisions made by the monkey mind.

Authenticity is crucial in birthing of your own values. If one tends to compare others instead of oneself then you lost the ability to appreciate what you have. This is also the main reason that talents are losing their footing when mindset is taken over by the monkey. WE are not monkey so take control of your thoughts and use them to the highest potential.

My new year resolution is pretty simple. I wish to see a coaching culture community where everyone is being guided towards their own potential. As a coach, my duty is to ensure that your journey is ongoing even when we have completed our session. It is really something I want to see happen and I hope you are all with me on this journey. Success should belong to everyone.

My topic on Which is what means you are who you are without pretense.