Procrastination - is murdering your energy.

 Procrastination is can be a habit if not address immediately. People who procrastinate missed a lot of opportunities in life. They said, in order to build a habit one just need to do it 3 to 5 times. Others said that it takes about 18 to 254 days. Then what happened to all the sciences when I said that it takes second to build. This is because when I was attending a workshop that encourage us to mouth vulgar words, it just stuck with so much energy to me. I do not even think it is wrong to do so. Therefore, do procrastination needs so long? 

 #Wikipedia categorized this as the unwillingness to act even though they know that it is a negative consequences. Then you will ask, why one do it? Good question. Now, why do you do it then? Be honest, we have done this before and maybe in future too. However, what is the cause for people to keep doing it?

Based on the research done, the following are some of the valid reasons for this habits. To me, I believe it is a secondary gain that one seek to have when the procrastinate. Want you to walk with me and check what is actually their reasons which you also might find it absurd.

• Avoidance: Avoiding the location or situation where the task takes place. This could be due to fear of being in that location or situation. 
• Denial and trivialization: Pretending that procrastinatory behavior is not actually procrastinating, but rather a task which is more important than the avoided one, or that the essential task that should be done is not of immediate importance.
• Distraction: Engaging or immersing oneself in other behaviors or actions to prevent awareness of the task.
• Descending counterfactuality: Comparing consequences of one's procrastinatory behavior with others' worse situations.
• Valorisation: Pointing in satisfaction to what one achieved in the meantime while one should have been doing something else.
• Blaming: Delusional attributions to external factors, such as rationalizing that the procrastination is due to external forces beyond one's control.
• Mocking: Using humor to validate one's procrastination.

Now, why then do people still do it? Yes. 

If you are given a choice , what makes one choose the negative ones and not the positive ones? Isn't that a bit of a waste. You are using the same energy to explore the success but you fall of the horses when you procrastinate. 

Think again when you do it in future. Time is energy and procrastination "murder" your energy.

What is Coaching?

 This is a common question asked by many people. They either do not understand or they understand but do not know the purpose. 

Here are some of the explanation which is extracted from various sources :-

Microsoft Bing

Coaching is a form of development in which an experienced person, called a coach, supports a learner or client in achieving a specific personal or professional goal by providing training and guidance. The learner is sometimes call a coachee. Coaching aims to improve performance and focuses on the "here and now" rather than on the past or future. There are many different modes of coaching.

*** This is not the actual explanation.

As a professional coach, I am trained to concentrate on the client and only the client. My duty is to to assist the client in achieving specific goals through a series of processes. No judgement and unwarranted breach of confidentiality by clients is needed. This is the most powerful part, the rapport with clients are so strong that every question that I asked are answered with the story they cannot tell. Incredible because being in the comfort of my space, they feel safe and non judgmental. I do not need to know everything from that coaching session but it will eventually be solved by the client with technique use during the coaching sessions. It is indeed incredible and together we achieve the specific goal of our clients. 

Some of the skills that professional coaches like me is always good at are :-

• Listening
• Passionate about their clients clarity and Empathetic
• Creative, intuitive & curious
• Trained in coaching behaviors and competent
• Flexible to adapt to client's change

Some said that the results are fake because it is not long term. I have to agree that this could happened if:-

• Client or coaches is not committed 
• Actions is not taken to address the real issues
• Hidden agenda of either parties-clarity will not be achieve. Example: If the coachee is being forced to attend or if the payor of the coachee needs a set rules for coaching.

I personally needs the coachee to contact me regardless who is paying the bill. My most important person is the client that I coach. 

The whole process can be complicated or easy , it all depends on the situation and the clients.
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5 Things You Never Knew About Fear

5 Things You Never Knew About Fear

Without darkness, you will not know lights.
Without fear, you will not have clarity.
Today is the day to discover 5 things you neve knew about fear
Understanding the Science of Fear.

 

“Fear is our survival response”, say Northwestern Medicine Clinical Psychologist Zachary Siko
Let’s understand more.

Fear is Physical

It is something that is triggered and create a movie in your mind. In NLP , we identify this as the response of fight or flight. When you need to act immediately to an emergency, you will make the first most spontaneous move. In your choice to flight, you will already anchor fear in this process unconsciously. Your whole body will react to protect your being and this is unknown to you until it become serious. So, it is physical happening that cause unconscious fear- you will not be able to makegood decisions.

Fear Can Make You Foggy

While your brain is going through the identifying process, the rest of your system started to shut down. This will cause the inability of one to make wise decision and sometimes not even able to think clearly. That’s where the screaming and shouting will take place is you are being blamed for a case that you are not responsible for.  You will not be able to rationalize this even if the same situation is repeating itself similar to the last. Your thinking will shut down and you feel you are being the victim of a business deal. Then you will feel foggy.

Fear Can become Pleasure

This is the secondary gain in some instances especially those who are on night duty but fear of the dark orfear of public speaking. You will find ways to be sick and take medical leave whenever this kind of duties are given to you.

Fear Is Not Phobia

Watching a co-worker going through a hardship might leave you traumatized because you are not familiar with the needs. Like a zoo keeper handling tiger might be a job that you do not want. However, you might experience the fear and even though you are working in the zoo and your duty is different. But your daily life you still need to pass the tiger cage. Your ability to function while maintaining a rational reaction is just a single case of fear which have nothing to do with phobia.

Fear Keeps You Safe

“Fear is a natural and biological condition that we all experience “Say Dr Sikora.
“It’s important to experience fear because it keeps us safe”.You must be surprise to hear this. Fear is an emotion that can be positive and healthy which might bring negative emotion. This type of fear are normally another method used by certain people to either find solace or to control a situation. This is the most easy part- in NLP Coaching – we can remove negative emotions of fear easily.

Whatever fear situation that you are in now, our Personal Breakthrough Coaching will help you solve it effortlessly.

Contact me at +60123996326 for an appointment to clarify your needs of this coaching and see the benefits which after removing will give you success.

Information is extracted from:  https://www.nm.org/healthbeat/healthy-tips/emotional-health/5-things-you-never-knew-about-fear