I Don't Prepare Before I Speak — I Discover as I Speak

 

I Don't Prepare Before I Speak — I Discover as I Speak

There is something else I want to share about the way I do my TikTok Live.

I don't always prepare first and then come online to speak.

Sometimes, I do the Live first.

Then I prepare.

I speak.

I listen to myself.

I journal.

I think about what I have just said.

And sometimes, when I discuss the topic with AI afterwards, it may tell me:

"Maybe you shouldn't have said that."

And perhaps from a professional perspective, there are things that could certainly be refined.

But I also believe there is something very important about being human.

We don't always get everything right before we speak.

Sometimes we discover what we really mean by allowing ourselves to speak first.

That is part of my own Inner Dialogue.

When "Enough" Is Still Not Enough

As I was journaling after my Live, I thought about a particular relationship in my own life.

There is someone where I feel:

I've done enough.

But somehow, they still want to squeeze more out of me.

And that is where I become rebellious.

I stop communicating.

I stop doing things.

Not necessarily because I don't care.

Sometimes it is because something inside me is saying:

Enough.

And I think we need to be honest about these emotions.

Because when you suppress them, they don't disappear.

They sit somewhere inside you.

And eventually, they come back.

For me, journaling gives those emotions somewhere to go.

I can write down:

What am I feeling?

What happened?

What do I want?

What do I not want?

What am I willing to do?

When do I want to do it?

How do I want to approach it?

And sometimes, I simply need to wait until the time is right.

That doesn't mean I am avoiding the issue.

It means I am giving myself time to understand how I want to respond.

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This Is Why I Journal

This is why journaling has become important to me.

I don't journal because I want to create beautiful sentences.

I journal because I want a record of myself.

A record of:

What I wanted.

What I felt.

What I decided.

What I wanted to do.

When I wanted to do it.

How I wanted to do it.

Then, when the emotion comes back and says:

"You must do something about this!"

I can go back and look.

My Inner Dialogue is already active.

I don't have to react immediately.

I can ask:

Is this still what I want?

Has anything changed?

Is this emotion giving me information, or is it simply asking me to react?

That little pause can make a huge difference.

Because there is a difference between responding and reacting.

Your Emotions Are Not the Enemy

So if something I say during my Live touches something inside you, don't immediately ask:

"Is Peggy right?"

Ask yourself:

"Why did that sentence affect me?"

Maybe you are living under your parents' shadow.

Maybe you are carrying somebody else's expectations.

Maybe you have been giving and giving until you don't know what "enough" feels like anymore.

Maybe you have stopped communicating because you feel nobody is listening.

Maybe you are angry.

Maybe you are tired.

Maybe you are rebellious.

Whatever it is—

listen to it.

You don't have to act on every emotion.

But you can listen to every emotion.

Because your emotions may be carrying information about you.

And that is where Inner Dialogue becomes powerful.

You notice.

You talk to yourself.

You understand.

Then you decide.

And when you are ready—

you act.

Come Into the Room as You Are

So if you have experienced something similar, you don't have to write a long explanation.

Just say yes.

Give me a thumbs-up.

Leave a comment.

Share what you feel comfortable sharing.

And if this room gives you something useful, share my page too.

Not because I need more numbers.

But because perhaps somebody else needs to hear something that you have just heard.

When more people begin having conversations with themselves, we create a bigger pool of awareness.

And maybe that is what this room is really about.

Not me talking to you.

You learning to talk to yourself.

So come into the room.

Be with yourself.

Connect back.

And listen to the voice that has been with you all along.

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Not Every Cry for Help Is an Invitation to Coach

Not Every Cry for Help Is an Invitation to Coach

As an Inner Dialogue Coach, my heart naturally responds when someone says, "I have anxiety."

During one of my TikTok Live sessions, a viewer shared that he was struggling with anxiety. I invited him to connect with me through WhatsApp if he felt comfortable continuing the conversation.

Later, I discovered he was a man and instead reached out through TikTok. Out of curiosity, I visited his profile.

What I found surprised me.

His profile described himself as a tantra practitioner, a sugar daddy, someone open-minded who wanted to make friends and make money. It was very different from the image I had unconsciously formed in my mind when he first shared about his anxiety.

For a brief moment, my inner dialogue began asking questions.

"Is he genuinely seeking help?"

"What is his intention?"

"Should I continue this conversation?"

Then I paused.

I realised something important.

The purpose of coaching is not to judge someone's profile. Neither is it to assume that every person who shares a struggle is ready for coaching.

As coaches, compassion and discernment must walk hand in hand.

Someone can genuinely experience anxiety regardless of their profession, lifestyle, or how they present themselves online. At the same time, not every conversation is meant to become a coaching relationship.

This experience reminded me of something I often share.

Kindness does not require the absence of boundaries.

Being compassionate does not mean saying yes to everyone.

Being available does not mean becoming accessible to every request.

As coaches, we are not here to rescue people.

We are here to create a space where those who are truly ready can begin listening to the wisdom of their own voice.

Today, if someone reaches out after a live session, I no longer rush into offering my time.

Instead, I become curious.

"What made you join my live today?"

"What would you like support with?"

Their response often reveals far more than their profile ever could.

Over the years, I have learned that our intuition speaks softly.

Sometimes it isn't warning us that someone is dangerous.

It is simply reminding us to slow down.

To observe before assuming.

To listen before advising.

To allow trust to develop naturally.

Perhaps this is another lesson in Awakening Your Worth.

When we know our worth, we don't need to close our hearts.

We simply learn to open them with wisdom.

Not everyone who enters our space is our client.

Not everyone who is hurting is ready to be helped.

And that is perfectly okay.

The right people will recognise the space you have created.

The right conversations will unfold at the right time.

Until then, continue to lead with compassion, guided by discernment, and trust the wisdom of your own inner dialogue.

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Reflection

"Discernment is not the opposite of compassion. It is compassion guided by wisdom. When we awaken our worth, we learn that protecting our boundaries is not an act of fear—it is an act of self-respect."

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We Have Absorbed So Much

We Have Absorbed So Much

Think about how much we have absorbed throughout our lives.

Culture.

Religion.

Beliefs.

Political views.

Family expectations.

Company politics.

Networking values.

Social expectations.

Other people's opinions.

And we keep absorbing.

Absorbing.

Absorbing.

Until one day, we forget to ask:

Is all of this actually mine?

Not every piece of information we receive is information we need to keep.

And I'm not saying this as someone who has already figured everything out.

Quite the opposite.

I'm saying it because I've been there.

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Your Journey Doesn't Have to Be Finished Yet

So if you are looking at yourself today and thinking:

"I'm still a failure."

I want you to stop for a moment.

Look back.

What have you achieved that you are proud of?

Don't look for something huge.

Don't look for a promotion.

Don't look for a million-dollar business.

Don't look for something that will impress other people.

Just find one thing.

One thing you are proud of.

Maybe you survived something difficult.

Maybe you finally said no.

Maybe you learned something new.

Maybe you got out of bed when you didn't feel like it.

Maybe you started again.

Maybe you simply kept going.

Just one thing.

And then—

thank yourself for it.

Charity begins from home.

And I believe appreciation begins from home too.

Before you wait for somebody else to recognise you, recognise yourself.

Before you wait for somebody else to tell you that you have done well, tell yourself.

Before you wait for somebody else to give you permission to move forward, listen to your own voice.

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My Own Thought Constipation

 

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My Own Thought Constipation

After the pandemic started, I spent an enormous amount of time learning.

During the first year of the pandemic, I would say I spent almost 365 days learning something every day.

Zoom lesson after Zoom lesson.

Course after course.

Experience after experience.

I knew I was a coach.

I had already been a coach for several years.

But I wasn't really practising coaching at that time because I was working.

I knew I was good at managing.

I knew I was good at SOPs.

I knew I was good with human relationships.

I knew I could organise things.

I knew many things.

But I had not really coined down what I was good at.

I hadn't found the core.

Instead, I became greedy.

I wanted to do everything.

And when you want to do everything, sometimes you end up doing nothing properly.

That's what I call:

Thought constipation.

Too much information.

Too many possibilities.

Too many things you want to become.

And not enough space to hear yourself.

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Then I Slowed Down

Eventually, I had to slow down.

I started recognising my core.

I started separating things.

Putting things into perspective.

Segmenting what I had learned.

Asking myself:

What is really mine?

What do I really want to bring forward?

What is useful?

What no longer serves me?

And eventually, something became clear.

I created my own platform:

Awakening Your Worth.

And at the heart of it is something very simple:

Inner Dialogue.

This journey didn't happen in one day.

It took years.

It took experimentation.

It took learning.

It took getting lost.

It took having too much information.

It took slowing down.

And it took listening to myself.

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Come Back to Yourself

So when you come into this room at 9 a.m., you don't have to come here because you need me.

Come here because you need you.

Use this room to check in.

Use it to reconnect.

Use it to process.

Use it to release what no longer serves you.

Use it to recognise what still has value.

And most importantly—

Come back to yourself.

Because somewhere underneath all the information you have collected, all the expectations you have carried, and all the identities you have taken on,

there is still you.

Your Inner Dialogue is one way of finding your way back.

And when you find your way back to yourself, you don't necessarily become somebody new.

You simply remember who you have always been.

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I'm Not Promoting Coaching. I'm Promoting You Back to You.

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I'm Not Promoting Coaching. I'm Promoting You Back to You.

Sometimes people ask me:

"Peggy, you're doing TikTok Live all the time. Why aren't you promoting your coaching sessions more aggressively?"

And my answer is:

I'm not promoting a business.

I'm promoting you back to you.

What I want is for you to become curious enough about yourself that you want to have that coaching conversation.

Not because I want you to buy coaching.

But because you want to discover what is already inside you.

You want to take the values from your experiences and transform them back into yourself.

Because transformation, to me, is not about becoming somebody else.

Transformation is about going back to your core.

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Use Your Thoughts — Don't Let Your Thoughts Use You

I still have negative thoughts.

I am not an angel.

I still get irritated.

I still get frustrated.

I still have moments when my thoughts run in directions I don't particularly like.

The difference is that I am becoming more mindful of what I do with those thoughts.

I don't want my energy to be zapped by thoughts that don't deserve my energy.

That doesn't mean I suppress them.

It means I notice them.

For example, I have always preferred stories with a happy ending.

Recently, I started challenging myself to watch stories that don't end well.

Instead of immediately saying:

"I don't like this."

I ask:

"Why did this happen?"

"What choices brought this person here?"

"If this person had made a different decision, would the outcome have changed?"

Now I am learning from what I am watching instead of simply judging it.

That is mindfulness to me.

Look.

Notice.

Learn.

Then bring it into Inner Dialogue.

The same applies to painful experiences.

Someone may hurt you.

Your mind may produce anger.

You may feel betrayed.

You may want revenge.

You may replay what happened again and again.

Those thoughts are real experiences.

But a thought is not automatically a command.

You can think:

"I hate what happened."

without allowing hatred to become your entire life.

You can acknowledge:

"I was hurt."

without allowing that person to continue controlling your present.

So I ask myself:

"What am I doing with this thought?"

Am I using it to understand myself?

Or am I allowing it to consume me?

This is where mindfulness gives me space.

Inner Dialogue gives me conversation.

And alignment gives me choice.

I don't need to have only positive thoughts.

I need to become more conscious of my thoughts.

Because I cannot control every thought that enters my mind.

But I can become more intentional about which thoughts I feed.

Which thoughts I explore.

Which thoughts I act upon.

And which thoughts I allow to pass.

So don't waste your thoughts.

Use your thoughts.

Learn from them.

Question them.

Understand them.

And when necessary, let them go.

Don't let every thought decide who you are.

               

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When Life Tests Your Patience, Use Your Inner Dialogue

 

When Life Tests Your Patience, Use Your Inner Dialogue

You know why I'm smiling?

Because all my gadgets went haywire this morning.

My Touch 'n Go ran out of credit, and when I tried to get into my Maybank, it wasn't working.

My Pilates app wasn't working either. I couldn't reset it, and I don't even know why.

Then my PC started hanging.

It recorded my Live, but it couldn't process it.

And I'm sitting there thinking:

Okay, Peggy. This is testing your patience.

Isn't life funny?

Sometimes the very thing you are talking about suddenly appears in front of you.

I was just talking about patience, and then my gadgets decided to give me a practical examination.

What Do I Want?

When my Touch 'n Go wasn't working, I was almost frustrated.

I'm so used to using e-wallets now.

Everyone uses QR payments.

And suddenly, I'm standing in front of a vendor thinking:

"Hey, I have money in my wallet. Why can't I use it?"

That feeling can hit your ego immediately.

But I didn't let the frustration take over.

Instead, I asked myself:

What do I want?

I decided to use cash.

Long time no use cash!

And you know what?

It was fine.

The only thing was that I had to start dealing with those little coins again.

But it worked.

And that became another reminder:

When one way doesn't work, it doesn't mean nothing will work.

Sometimes you simply need another way.

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