Breaking Through Challenges: Understanding the Cause.

You don't have to  walk alone-
Purpose and Alignment coach - Peggy Ang

In my previous article, I shared the effects of not achieving breakthroughs in life. Now, let’s dive deeper into the causes behind these challenges. This is where you take back your power and move toward your finite goals, aligned with infinite achievements. 

Each cause stems from deeply rooted patterns, but by identifying them, you unlock the potential to overcome them. Let’s explore:

1. Learned Helplessness

Cause: A history of repeated failures or traumas leads to the belief that one’s actions are futile. 

When life’s hardships pile up, it’s easy to feel powerless. For me, facing my own trauma was a painful yet transformative journey. I learned that helplessness can only destroy me if I give it the power to do so. Taking back control begins with acknowledging this truth: You are not helpless—you have the strength to rise above.

2. Negative Thinking

Cause: Habitual focus on fear and doubt becomes a defence mechanism to avoid disappointment. 

Negative thinking often feels like an inherited trait, deeply ingrained before we even realize it. Overcoming this begins with self-compassion. One technique I use is the Hawaiian practice of *Ho’oponopono*—a simple but profound mantra: 

- I’m sorry. 

- Please forgive me. 

- Thank you. 

- I love you. 

These words can shift your mindset and reconnect you with gratitude. Try it—it’s a small but powerful step toward breaking the cycle.

3. Victim Mentality

Cause: Past betrayals, emotional wounds, or societal conditioning lead to externalizing blame. 

The victim mindset convinces us that life is unfair and out of our control. However, this perspective only reinforces a cycle of stagnation. The way forward is to reclaim ownership of your story. Ask yourself, “What can I do differently to create the outcome I desire?” 

4. Lack of Accountability

Cause: Fear of failure or judgment prevents people from taking responsibility for their actions. 

Failure is painful, especially when it feels like you’ve already sacrificed so much. I once worked with a client who was haunted by a project failure because he refused to take accountability. When he finally faced the truth, he realized that accepting responsibility was the key to moving forward. Accountability isn’t a burden—it’s your gateway to growth.

5. Low Emotional Regulation 

Cause: Unresolved trauma or lack of coping mechanisms makes it hard to manage stress. 

Unmanaged stress grows like a vine, strangling your ability to move forward. People in this state may shut down or deny the problem altogether. If you see someone struggling, offer them understanding. A simple phrase like “You are seen, heard, and understood” can make a world of difference. Emotional regulation begins with being present—for yourself and for others.

6. Desire for Validation or Attention 

Cause: Unmet emotional needs or low self-worth lead to reliance on external validation. 

I’ve been here. I thought working harder or doing more would bring recognition. It didn’t. Eventually, I realized my need for validation stemmed from my own insecurities. The breakthrough came when I started valuing myself, regardless of others’ opinions. Your worth is intrinsic—it doesn’t depend on external praise.

7. Fear of Failure 

Cause: Perfectionism and fear of judgment create resistance to taking risks. 

Failure hurts, but ego is often the real barrier. Letting go of ego allows you to see failure for what it truly is: a lesson. Instead of blaming others, take ownership of your actions and learn from the experience. Growth comes not from avoiding failure but from embracing it as part of the journey.

8. Procrastination or Lack of Motivation 

Cause: Overwhelming goals or unclear direction lead to inaction. 

Procrastination is often a sign of missing clarity. If the path ahead feels blurry, start by breaking your goal into smaller, manageable steps. Focus on one task at a time and celebrate small wins. Momentum is built through action, no matter how small.

9. Overwhelmed by Challenges 

Cause: Emotional overload and lack of support lead to paralysis or unhealthy coping mechanisms. 

Life’s challenges can feel insurmountable, but they exist to help you grow. I’ve learned this firsthand. When you feel overwhelmed, take a step back and give yourself the gift of self-care. A "me time" moment can help you recharge and gain clarity. Remember, challenges are opportunities to become a better version of yourself.

10.Low Self-Esteem 

Cause: Experiences of rejection, criticism, or neglect create feelings of unworthiness. 

Low self-esteem doesn’t appear out of nowhere—it often stems from unresolved trauma or shame. To rebuild confidence, look inward. Explore your unconscious mind through journaling, meditation, or even your dreams. Healing takes time, but it begins with taking action. Low self-esteem is not permanent—it can be overcome with effort and self-love.

Conclusion: Taking the Next Step 

Identifying the causes behind your challenges is the first step toward creating breakthroughs. Each cause is an opportunity to transform pain into power, stagnation into momentum, and fear into freedom. 

As a coach with metaphysical knowledge, I can guide you toward discovering your purpose and aligning with your infinite goals. 

If you’re ready to take action, reach out to me: 

WhatsApp: +60123996326 (message only)

WeChat: PEGGYANG868(message only) 

Email: peggyang@live.com.my or peggyang868@gmail.com 

Let's explore your potential together. You don't have to face your challenges alone. 

I am here waiting for you.