#awakeningyourworth - Inclusions, Exclusions & The Human Heart — A Quiet Reflection

 

✨ Inclusions, Exclusions & The Human Heart — A Quiet Reflection ✨

We don’t talk about this enough…
but every one of us has felt the sting of being left out,
and also the guilt of not showing up when we were invited.

Tonight, let’s peel back the layers and explore this dance we all experience —
the dance of being included, excluded, and emotionally entangled in between.

1. When You Are Excluded: The Silent Ache

There’s a particular ache that comes with exclusion.
It’s not loud, but it pierces.

Not because the event is important…
but because somewhere deep inside, a question gets triggered:

“Am I not enough?”

Even as adults, we still carry this tiny fear from childhood —
that fear of not belonging, not being chosen, not being remembered.

What usually arises:

  • a quick drop in confidence

  • a little self-blame

  • a quiet bruised ego

  • or emotional numbness from too many past hurts

And here’s the irony:
Sometimes being excluded is actually protection.
A circle that closes without you was never your circle to begin with.

The traditional wisdom:
Go where you are valued.
The forward wisdom:
Create the circles you desire.

Both hold truth.

2. When You Are Included but Cannot Attend

This one hits a different nerve.

You are wanted.
You are remembered.
But you cannot go.

And suddenly, a new emotional cocktail shows up:

  • FOMO

  • guilt

  • worry about others’ perception

  • fear of being forgotten next time

  • and also… relief (but quietly 🤫)

This is such a human moment —
to want connection,
yet honour your current capacity.

The traditional view reminds us:
Rest is responsibility.
The modern view says:
Your energy deserves boundaries.

Both matter.

3. The Human Commonality: What Actually Happens Inside

Whether you’re excluded or cannot attend, there are always three layers unfolding:

a) Annoyances

Little irritations bubbling quietly:
“Why like that?”
“Why so complicated?”
“Why must this affect me?”

b) Emotions

The heart does what it does.
Exclusion brings sadness, anger, insecurity.
Inability to join brings guilt, frustration, worry.

Behind both is the same core fear:
Losing connection.

c) Actions

Humans respond in familiar patterns:

  • withdrawing

  • forcing themselves to show up

  • pretending they don’t care

  • spiraling in thoughts

But the real path forward is the silent one:

Pause → Reflect → Re-center.

Self-alignment always wins.

✨ So How Do We Heal This? — The Shift

1. Acknowledge Your Feeling

Not judge it.
Just name it.
“Ah… I feel left out.”
Or “I feel bad for not going.”

Naming is grounding.

2. Ask the Real Question

“Is this about today… or an old wound?”
Most discomfort comes from past patterns,
not the actual moment.

3. Reclaim Your Worth

Excluded?
Your value never depended on invitations.

Included but can’t attend?
Your body and energy are giving you guidance.

4. Change Perspective

What if exclusion prevented unnecessary noise?
What if not attending is the universe protecting your bandwidth?

5. Respond With Grace

  • send a blessing

  • say “enjoy!”

  • communicate later if needed

No drama.
No stories.
Just alignment, clarity, and peace.

✨ Final Thought

Inclusions and exclusions don’t define you —
they reveal you.

They reveal where you stand in your own worth,
what you fear losing,
and what you are ready to let go of.

Your emotional reactions are not flaws.
They are signposts.
They point you back to yourself —
to your needs, your boundaries, your truth.


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