#awakeningyourworth - Mental Bribery

 

Mental Bribery: The Silent Currency We All Use Without Realising

We grow up thinking we’re “nice,” “helpful,” “understanding.”
But somewhere along the way… we may also pick up this silent habit called mental bribery.

And the funniest part?
Most of us don’t even know we’re doing it — it’s already embedded in our cultural DNA.

The Culture: Where It Begins

I’ve watched enough dramas (Chinese, Korean, Thai — you name it 😂) to notice one thing:
everyone survives using strategies built on past wounds.

In real life, it’s the same.
Our being — the person we present to the world — is shaped by the parts we hide in our shadows.

We learn:

  • behave ➜ get love

  • sacrifice ➜ get approval

  • don’t speak ➜ stay safe

So we unknowingly create a system where love, peace, and acceptance become a currency.

And this is where mental bribery starts.

The Token: When Innocence Turns Transactional

It starts small.
A favour.
A gift.
A compromise to “keep the peace.”

But secretly, there’s something behind it:
“I hope you appreciate me.”
“I hope you treat me better.”
“I hope you don’t leave.”

A token becomes a trade.
An act becomes emotional currency.
A gesture becomes bribery.

And the saddest part?
We do it without admitting it.

Reciprocal Actions: The Contracts No One Signed

Mental bribery always carries an invisible contract:
“I give this… so you will give me something back.”

Not money.
But validation
Acceptance
Devotion
Effort
Consistency
Security

And because no one actually talks about this contract, both sides end up feeling:

  • disappointed

  • betrayed

  • misunderstood

  • “I gave so much… for what?”

But the truth?
No one agreed to return what you secretly hoped for.

What’s Next? Breaking the Cycle

To break mental bribery, we need to break the silence.

(1) Awareness

Be brutally honest:
“What am I giving with expectations attached?”

(2) Boundaries

Shift from:
“I hope you appreciate me”
to
“I give because it aligns with who I am.”

(3) Communication

Replace silent suffering with honest clarity.

(4) Rewrite Your Inner Culture

The past shaped you.
But you get to choose your future patterns.

Final Reflection

Mental bribery is the currency of fear.
Self-worth is the currency of freedom.

When you choose self-worth, the need to “buy love” disappears.
That’s when life becomes lighter, cleaner, and more real.


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