If you wake up and when you wake up - what is life to you.

  I was writing on two other topics and decided to abandon that when this pop up. Monkey mind does have it's advantage when you tame it towards a certain direction. Mine is starting to bloom in ways that I will call this as focus. In my daily life, there are many expectation. In a recent movie, I am again put into a spot where women have to choose career or family. Family, meaning the full fledge wife and mother with no room for career. These women can work as long as they are home for their children until a day they all grown up and leave home. In some companies they do not encourage pregnancy. They have many ways of doing it because it is still legally right to place a women into cold storage when she cannot travel for business. Do you think in this era there should be more understanding towards the women caught in this kind of dilemma? Now, hold your horses and don't bite me yet. I am just thinking what can women in this kind of situation do. I am not advocating that we go f...

 This is needed every second of the day. From the time you wake up to the time you go to bed. Interestingly, it can also be frustrating as well as motivating. What could be the reason for this? For me it is because there are too many choices I used to be extremely busy and every decision make based on the time I have to spend on each task or thoughts. When I took a career break and decided to embark on coaching, these decision making should be easier right? That’s what I thought too. But it is definitely untrue. I always assigned time for my participants for coaching first before I decide on making other arrangements. However, this can sometime be difficult too. When a participant has some emergency, I am left with a void. Now what should I do? I used to just take another coffee break or start to snacking until the next session. Good decision? Not really. This is because the time I spend preparing myself for the coaching session is not fruitful at all. As a coach, I can only prepar...

  This is a question that some might ask. It is such a meaningful word that will only give purpose when it is fully understood. Therefore, what does abundance mean to you. From my own point of view. It means that I have to be passionately reflecting on whatever is popping in my monkey mind. Not all learning flow in like a breeze, fresh and sweet. However, the spices of life is to appreciate the ability to see and listen to voices that are giving essence to growth. In fact, the worst scenario gives me the best lesson in life. I learned to stop instance reaction at time of chaos. At time when people think they are giving you good advice which is truly appreciated. However, we all have our own life even though you might be in the same home or in the same environment. Learning to take proactive action of "Listen, evaluate and act." It is not easy because most people think they know what is best for you. What makes me say this? Well! I was the same before I embark on the coaching ...

  Have you ever wonder how you become who you are now? But...... you might not dare to grow further? You want success but you don't want success. Who understand this? I used to think that this kind of issues should only come from a nincompoop. Well! you are looking at one reformed nincompoop now. I was chasing success and comply to all the needs to be the best in my industry. Sacrifice everything to have this little glimpse of hope. When the opportunities came, I froze. I go into self doubts. I become scare of success. Funny right. But that is how exactly it is. The fear of being very successful is so unreal and I kept telling myself, I can do it. But something is still missing all the time. The heart of this success is missing. In my chase for recognition , I forgot who I am. I forgot about the purpose of having a life that I love to live. I even forgot, what makes me work non stop chasing after perfection. Then the discovery begin about 10 years ago. The time , I was lost and sea...

  Finally after months of lockdown, I can finally visit my daughter in Groningen, The Netherland. Many people asked me, are you afraid of exploring the unknown? I used to fall into the trap of what other people think and what other people say. I now realised that many people think what they know and what they think is good for them should be good for me. Many things I will have done it if I have not been influenced by this stigma of reality which is still controlling many people of our society. How I let go of all this and just use the information shared as an exploration? Coaching helps. The door of opportunity is never closed but most people allowed the monkey mind to play havoc to their decisions. What will happened if I did not take the advise of others? Will I failed faster or will I succeed? This remain a mystery because the past is just a reminder that I have a life worth exploring. On many occasions, my clients (some of us address them as coachee but this word is still new ...

How many of you actually look into the mirror and appreciate what you have? Do you know what a beauty you are? Do you know your own potential? Many people like to idolized someone but forgot that they are not going to be like the other no matter how hard they try. They live in dissolution and always blaming everything except their own eye sight. What makes me say this? Well! Because I was like that. I used to admire people with things that I do not have. I discredited my own ability. Yes, I might not be as good at the other person but nothing should stop me from going all the way for it. Is it too late to do so now? There is never too late. Everyone has the same number of hours in a day. Everyone age no matter how old they are now. Therefore, what is stopping one from achieving this? No one have the power to stop you if you know what you want. The question remains with that individual. Today’s webinar with @AndreaZsapka give me a reason to clear up some air. There are coaches and there...