Rebuilding From Within: Healing Your Inner Child to Master Your Destiny

#MasteringOurDestiny: Understanding and Healing the Inner Child

When I started off on this journey, I began with a focus on #richness—richness of life, growth, and meaning. Ironically, perhaps it was this richness that led to my Facebook account being hacked. It’s been almost eight months now, and I’m still in the process of trying to retrieve it. What a lesson this has been! In the early days, backup measures were nonexistent, and the recovery process now demands information that wasn’t even required during initial registration. Believe it or not, the hacking happened on a day of discovery—a day when a deep secret came to light.

But that’s life. Change happens, and we move forward.

I decided to shift my focus to this new chapter under #masteringourdestiny. I began to rebuild—not just my Facebook account but my life. I dug deeper into my #unconsciousmind, and one truth became very clear: the only constant in life is change.

Is change good or bad? Well, it depends on how we look at it. If you find clarity, it’s not about labeling change as good or bad. Like in #BaZi, it’s about what actions you take in response to it.

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Let’s Begin with the Inner Child

As I rebuilt, I kept encountering my inner child, appearing layer by layer, revealing old wounds and unresolved trauma. Today, I want to share some insights about the inner child and how understanding it can bring clarity and growth to your life.

Let Me Ask You This:

• Do you sometimes feel euphoric, only to crash into confusion or sadness moments later?
• Do you feel a need to express your emotions, yet struggle to find the right words—as if those emotions are alien to you?

These moments could be your inner child calling out to you.

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What Is the Inner Child?

For those unfamiliar with the concept, the inner child is the younger version of you that still lives within. It holds memories, emotions, and often unmet needs from your childhood. It carries both the innocence and the wounds of your past.

For those already familiar with this concept, you may have noticed that your relationship with your inner child evolves over time. New layers appear, and deeper insights emerge.

So, is the appearance of your inner child a good or bad thing? My answer is simple: Do you recognize when your inner child is showing up? And do you know why?

If you do, you are one of the blessed ones. If you don’t, know this: your inner child appears to guide you. It may bring pain, but it also holds the key to healing and growth.

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Real-Life Signs Your Inner Child May Be Calling Out

The inner child often reveals itself through everyday challenges—patterns in your relationships, emotional reactions, or behaviors. These signs may seem unrelated at first, but they often stem from unresolved wounds.

Here are a few examples:

1. Feeling Unworthy Despite Success

• How often do you hear stories of successful people who still feel empty or unappreciated?
• Do you ever look at someone’s shining achievements and see a hidden sadness in their eyes?

This can stem from an inner child who was never truly seen, loved, or validated in their early years.

2. Reacting with Anger or Withdrawal During Conflict

• Some people explode with anger at the smallest provocation.
• Others withdraw, go silent, or avoid confrontation completely.
• Ever seen aggressive drivers on the road? They’re reacting, but often they don’t know why.

These are responses of an inner child that may have felt unsafe, unheard, or misunderstood.

3. People-Pleasing to Seek Approval

• Always saying “yes” even when you mean “no.”
• Believing that others are always right.
• Having no opinion of your own, or being afraid to express it.

The inner child may still be trying to win approval and love that was missing in the past.

4. Avoiding Risks Due to Fear of Failure

• Playing it safe, even when you know you’re capable of more.
• Avoiding opportunities that could lead to growth because you “believe” you’ll fail again.
• Staying in your comfort zone to avoid rocking the boat.

This often comes from an inner child who experienced failure, rejection, or criticism that left deep scars.

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What Can You Do?

The first step to healing your inner child is awareness. Recognize the patterns and reactions that show up in your life. When you notice them, take a moment to pause and reflect:

• What emotion am I feeling right now?
• Where is this coming from? Is it tied to an old memory or belief?
• What does my inner child need from me at this moment?

Healing your inner child is not about blaming the past; it’s about creating a loving, supportive relationship with yourself now. Your inner child is not your enemy. It’s a guide, a mirror, and a source of healing if you choose to listen.

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Final Thoughts

The appearance of your inner child may not always feel convenient, but it is always meaningful. By acknowledging and nurturing your inner child, you can stop the patterns that keep looping into your life. You can move forward with greater clarity, love, and freedom.

If any part of this resonates with you, take a moment to reflect. Your inner child may be waiting for you to see them, hear them, and love them. Because once you do, anything becomes possible.

#masteringourdestiny #innerchild #selfhealing #growth #clarity

If you still unsure how to go about it, feel free to contact me through my email peggyangprivate@outlook.com with your intention to connect. 

Life is a Parcel

Yes, life is a parcel. A parcel that needs to be open. I been thru a lot of obstacles in life. However, I am thankful that whoever is up there still remember to reward me  once a while.
Thank you.

 Nearly had a clash with my daughter. But, though I am sad that I still have to remind her about her duty and responsibilities. Being a very short fuse lady, she was thumping like an incredible hulk. I was a little annoyed but not to the extends of fighting fire with fire. Instead, I just let my own disappointment turn to disaster. After all, she is just a tired girl who have not rested for one week. School activities. Well, glad that I have done that. While I was preparing for  a beauty sleep, my lovely daughter came in to apologies.  Now, don't you think that is the sweetest thing to do. I really appreciate her sincerity and accepted be eater I was never angry. Just annoyed.

Backdate that to my birthday. Knowing that her DOM(me) is such a person that love birthdays, wedding, births, etc. She gets her dad together and they bake a cake for me as my present(well, at least do it). Being Chinese I am greedy of tradition,  she knows me so well. On my Chinese birthday, she prepare " mee sua" and red eggs for me with my maid's help. She cooked me a night before my actual date since I am leaving for business on that day.

She have not realized that I have forego my own birthdays celebrations many years ago. I only place importance in these occasions for those who are love and respected by me. This is because everyone is a present to me. I have been blessed with a bad temper, arrogant but always done the right thing the end:). It is a healthy life to have her in this order. She always realized that the irritating things or unreasonable advice is actually been properly thought over before it is being commanded.

Thank you my darling daughter. I will always love you.

The above blog was written on the 23rd Feb 2014 at 2320hrs.

Now that she is 10 years older , she saw what I have always wish happen. Her life belongs to her and as a mother, I just stand by the side. She knows that I will always be there for her even when I leave this body.

Gratitude is a present for making realization and accept after I have done all that is possible.

Happiness is a choice

 When I chance upon a friend, I asked:-

What is your definition of happiness.

Her reply:-

I have food on my table.

I travel whenever I want.

I choose to be alone whenever I want.

But the sparkle is not in her eyes.

Then I asked: -

What happened to real happiness?

What will really make you feel that you are living your life full?

Her reply: -

I don't know.

How many of you out there are like her?

How can you find out?

What is next if it is still needing an answer?

As for me, my happiness is the ability to feel the joy and realization of my clients after each coaching session.

When they bloom, I feel very happy because in the same process I found my own answers.

You might think that it is weird that I have this kind of emotion and feelings.

Well! you can give it a go and do something for someone, but you get the returns in more than financial space.

If you are needing a coach, simply reach out to me at lifejourneyhome9@gmail.com

Breakthrough Journey - 3 simple steps.

Life is all about chasing the dreams. The questions starts to be implanted to you when you were born. In the modern generation, parents started way before the child is born. Is this the right way to cultivate a new generation?

From my research, a child is a gift. They are not something that is being flown in by the stork. They are also not something that you own. They are a person with life of their own. 

The problem starts with the parent's best intention. That is to give them the best of what they never have and to ensure that they live a full life. 

My question is what will you consider as full? 

To most of us including the previous me, I used to think that the material things that I gave to my child will definitely bring more joy and happiness for her own path in future. 

Parents work hard to ensure that the financial capabilities will give their children what they wanted. But seldom give the children a choice to choose. Drama unfold when the child did not follow their direction and due to the pressure of pallial piety the child tag along. Everything look good right?

Wrong. This is because when they become an individual they will start to look for their own identity. They are trapped between themselves and feel that nobody will understand their issues. This leads to many medical problem and eventually a beautiful life is dead before it dies.

I am referring to the mass majority of the population but thankfully there are still parents that allows their children to be themselves. Let them grow and enjoy their value in their own way.

So what can be done for your child if you know that they are in a stuck state.

These are few methods that I employ for my clients that you might want to test out in helping your children to achieve their own breakthrough.

1. Clarity

    Through your daily conversation , encourage their participation and observe their emotions.

2. Ask relevant questions pertaining to 1.

3. Be 100% present- Listen with interest. You might not be clear of what they are saying therefore you present is the most motivating factor. 

Last but not least:-

 In chapter 81 of the DaoDeJing 道德經, LaoZi 老子 provides us with a similar cultivation principle:

聖人之道 為而不爭

The way of enlightenment is to take the action without arguing or competing with others.

If you need professional help, I am a certified coach and help clients to resolve all these within a private and confidential coaching process. 

Please contact me at peggyang868@gmail.com with you requirements and I will response accordingly.

Coaching is sole for you.

#MasteringOurDestiny #Coaching #LearningJourney #PersonalGrowth #MindBodySpirit #DynamicFengShui #AbundanceMindset #HolisticWellness #QiActivation #Manifestation #SelfReflection

In the midst of perusing advertisements promising strategies to market my business, I found myself pondering: what truly drives my passion for coaching? It's a question worth exploring, as it speaks to the core of my journey.

I may sound noble, but truth be told, I am passionately immersed in coaching, eagerly absorbing every facet connected to this transformative practice.

My reasons are simple:

1. **Love for Learning:** My thirst for knowledge knows no bounds. Each day presents an opportunity to expand my understanding and refine my craft.

2. **Embracing Mistakes:** I believe in the power of learning from failures and mistakes. They are inevitable, but through them, I continually evolve and grow.

3. **Empowering Others:** There's a profound sense of fulfillment in helping others discover their potential and take charge of their lives. Even if I can't directly solve their challenges, I can inspire them to empower themselves.

A recent experience after my Dynamic Feng Shui class epitomizes my approach to life. Rushing to tap into the Qi of a specific location before it closed, I embraced focus and determination. Despite getting lost, I arrived with ample time, greeted by warmth and hospitality. As I dined, I aligned my qi with my intentions of abundance, balance, and freedom.

In moments of uncertainty or stagnation, I offer my guidance as a coach. I'm committed to supporting individuals in navigating life's challenges and unlocking their full potential.

Facing the unknown can be daunting, but with a simple mantra—"I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you."—we can align our body, mind, and spirit, inviting miracles into our lives.

I extend my hand to you, ready to accompany you on your journey of self-discovery and empowerment. Reach out, and together, let's master our destinies with courage and grace.

#peggyang868 #lifejourney9 #scarcity #mindset #coachingculture #mindfulness

Sense of Belonging.

#MasteringOurDestiny #LifePurpose #SelfReflection #PersonalGrowth #Coaching #LearningJourney #SelfDiscovery #LifeAdventure

Where do you belong?

Who do you belong to?

What can you do with this information?

As you ponder upon these questions, allow me to share my journey and insights with you.

Many of us strive to surpass our previous selves, continually climbing higher until we realize we've strayed from our prime. It's then that we often hit the emergency brake, only to discover it's too late. Youth fades, and the opportunity to prepare for another ascent dwindles.

Why do I say this? In my late 50s, I've found my life brimming with adventure, delving into various fields like coaching, NLP, Bazi, Oracle card reading, and more. I used to believe I was prepared, relying on stable income sources and investing what I could afford to lose. Yet, I failed to calculate the future value of my investments.

My life's purpose is simple:

1. I love to learn.

2. I love to share.

3. I love to support the growth of those I coach.

Throughout life's journey, I've faced challenges stemming from past experiences, enduring moments of self-punishment and reflection. However, I've transcended those trials, understanding that each phase requires attention and learning. No matter the obstacle, I'm grateful for the experience.

If you're seeking guidance and support on your journey, feel free to reach out for a coaching session at peggyang868@gmail.com. Let's navigate life's twists and turns together.

Holiday with happy healthy body.

Title: Embarking on a Journey of Self-Mastery: My Fasting Retreat Experience

#SelfMastery #HolisticWellness #FastingRetreat #MindBodySpirit #WellnessJourney #HealthyLiving #NourishYourBody #SelfAwareness #Gratitude #EnergyAbundance #MindfulNourishment #WellnessCommunity

In the quest to master our destiny, every aspect of our lives comes into play. For me, it began with a journey of spiritual and mindset cleansing, paving the way for a deeper understanding of holistic well-being.

One of the pivotal steps in this journey was learning to nourish my body while still embracing the joy of holiday festivities. This realization dawned on me amidst moments of clarity that emerged continuously, transcending mere physical detoxification.

Thus, it came as a pleasant surprise when I stumbled upon an event notice adorning the door of Purity Wellness, my sanctuary for yoga and wellness. A Fasting Retreat amidst nature, orchestrated by the seasoned guidance of Teacher Alan alongside the support of Teacher Tracy and Teacher Liew, awaited.

The retreat was meticulously structured into three phases:

1. **Pre-Fasting:** A four-day preparation phase to condition the body and mind.

  

2. **On-Site Retreat:** Four days immersed in the serenity of nature, undergoing the fasting process.

  

3. **Post-Fasting:** Two days dedicated to gently reintegrating nourishment into the system.

The program was designed to deliver optimal results with utmost comfort, a testament to the thoughtful curation and execution by the facilitators.

Undoubtedly, fasting presented its challenges, yet Teacher Alan's profound understanding of bodily functions and nutritional principles dispelled myths and instilled clarity. His unwavering dedication ensured a supportive environment throughout our retreat amidst nature's embrace.

Our journey commenced with a farewell to indulgence, preceded by a day of cheats, offering valuable insights into the nature of our eating habits.

Days two and three were a harmonious blend of rejuvenating practices including nose-cleansing rituals, moxibustion, colon cleansing, yoga, and meditative exercises such as qigong.

Reflecting on this transformative experience, three invaluable lessons emerged:

1. **#Self-Awareness:** Fasting prompted introspection, distinguishing between genuine hunger and fleeting cravings, revealing the true essence of my eating patterns.

2. **#Gratitude and Lightness:** A profound sense of gratitude enveloped me as I experienced newfound lightness and clarity within my body.

3. **#Energy Abundance:** Surprisingly, amidst consuming less, my energy levels soared, attesting to the vitality inherent in mindful nourishment.

As I embark on the next chapter of my journey, I invite you to join me in embracing the transformative power of holistic wellness. Stay tuned on my social media platforms for updates on future events, as we continue to explore the depths of self-mastery together.

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