5 Things You Never Knew About Fear

5 Things You Never Knew About Fear

Without darkness, you will not know lights.
Without fear, you will not have clarity.
Today is the day to discover 5 things you neve knew about fear
Understanding the Science of Fear.

 

“Fear is our survival response”, say Northwestern Medicine Clinical Psychologist Zachary Siko
Let’s understand more.

Fear is Physical

It is something that is triggered and create a movie in your mind. In NLP , we identify this as the response of fight or flight. When you need to act immediately to an emergency, you will make the first most spontaneous move. In your choice to flight, you will already anchor fear in this process unconsciously. Your whole body will react to protect your being and this is unknown to you until it become serious. So, it is physical happening that cause unconscious fear- you will not be able to makegood decisions.

Fear Can Make You Foggy

While your brain is going through the identifying process, the rest of your system started to shut down. This will cause the inability of one to make wise decision and sometimes not even able to think clearly. That’s where the screaming and shouting will take place is you are being blamed for a case that you are not responsible for.  You will not be able to rationalize this even if the same situation is repeating itself similar to the last. Your thinking will shut down and you feel you are being the victim of a business deal. Then you will feel foggy.

Fear Can become Pleasure

This is the secondary gain in some instances especially those who are on night duty but fear of the dark orfear of public speaking. You will find ways to be sick and take medical leave whenever this kind of duties are given to you.

Fear Is Not Phobia

Watching a co-worker going through a hardship might leave you traumatized because you are not familiar with the needs. Like a zoo keeper handling tiger might be a job that you do not want. However, you might experience the fear and even though you are working in the zoo and your duty is different. But your daily life you still need to pass the tiger cage. Your ability to function while maintaining a rational reaction is just a single case of fear which have nothing to do with phobia.

Fear Keeps You Safe

“Fear is a natural and biological condition that we all experience “Say Dr Sikora.
“It’s important to experience fear because it keeps us safe”.You must be surprise to hear this. Fear is an emotion that can be positive and healthy which might bring negative emotion. This type of fear are normally another method used by certain people to either find solace or to control a situation. This is the most easy part- in NLP Coaching – we can remove negative emotions of fear easily.

Whatever fear situation that you are in now, our Personal Breakthrough Coaching will help you solve it effortlessly.

Contact me at +60123996326 for an appointment to clarify your needs of this coaching and see the benefits which after removing will give you success.

Information is extracted from:  https://www.nm.org/healthbeat/healthy-tips/emotional-health/5-things-you-never-knew-about-fear

 

 

Negative Emotions

You must be wondering what happened to me right? It's been sometime since I have last written any post. Time is just speeding by when I am having fun discovering what life can brings. I believe yours is also going through a lot of exciting transformation.

Some of you might already know that I am learning NLP. My purpose is pretty simple and I pay a price for that price. Is it worth the time and investment? Well! This experience it like a mature wine, it gets better overtime. This is my generalization based on somewhat knowledge about wine. Please excuse me if I have phrased it out of context. What can I bring to you for your benefits?

Before I answer the what, while I am away from my blog, have you done anything of significant that you can be proud of? No need to answer but just hold those thoughts in your unconscious mind. Do you have any discovery that you are better than old self? If nothing pops up now, it's ok. It will be surfacing soon. It's good to have all your emotions surfacing so that you are aware of it's existence. What makes me say this? This is the interesting part.

Emotions plays a major part in our life. Unconsciously we let them make us feel lousy at time. These are the reasons why you cannot allowed these emotions to harm you.

Anger - Cause heart attack- I am sure you have heard and also know someone who have this happened when they were angry.

Sadness - will weaken your immune system and when prolong it can be a cause for depression. 

Fear - Can cause excessive stress, PTSD,Phobia and most of the time will prevent progress. 

Guilt - will lower your healing energy

Conflict - might be the cause for cancer.

To find out more, you can just google for Indepth understanding of the emotion. Here, I just want to highlight the main issues attracted by you when you do not act on it.

The how is very simple. You need to start with yourself. Your inner self and your pain in life. The discovery might be extraordinary because it is not a step that ordinary people will do. Only people who knows their possibilities and willing to peel of their inner beliefs will achieve the success beyond their expectations.

Then you need to do a lot of reflections and decide how you want to "cure "yourself out of the emotions. Everyone have choices so this is where you make your choices. I did.

Finally, choose the methods you need to overcome and change or transform your life. Everything is possible when you think it is possible and take action. 

My method is pretty clear cut - I embrace the coaching tools and enhance it with NLP. It's a journey of opening pandora boxes every time. Most of the time, I came out a winner and sometimes, I just make a choice.

In life, you choose what you choose to do. The rest is how you do it to get the results you want.  Keep reflecting and take actions.

Personal Breakthrough Program Coaching

 My name is Peggy Ang . I am a Personal Breakthrough Coach. I have been certified under IAC - International Association of Coaching and a NLP Practitioner. Coaching is the best way to educate ourselves into getting what we want. 

They say that only people with expectation and high ambition seek a coach. This is because it helps them to achieve their goals with clarity and accuracy. Some also say that the fear of facing yourself becomes easier when you share it with people who are with you. Non judgmental hearing, seeing you as you are and feeling your emotions with empathy.

Some says that companies are offering higher salaries to retain staff but still not getting any good quality. While others say that employees feel that their company does not appreciate their efforts. How to breach this gap? Coaching Breakthrough Program can be utilized towards this successful collaboration of all parties.

When you are with them and looking for a coach, please contact me via WhatsApp +60123996326 for 1st session of interaction free of charge for 30-45minutes. Virtually done. After that , you can make your decision whether to buy into your own development or not. 

I only accept people who are self-initiated and self-maintained throughout the whole program. This will only be possible after the first session with me.

There are only 4 sessions for which I will assist you to find solutions. My Personal Breakthrough Program is listed below:-

1. Weight Management - when you are looking for your ideal weight.

2. Stop Smoking - when you will achieve your desired life without this.

3. Time management - Time is energy  which converts to $$.  Where to get the extra.

4. Self - development - Looking for a solution within your needs.

5. Work Life Balance - family  , career etc.

6. Don't know, unknown and do not know - removing of limiting decisions and negative emotion.

7. Looking for something - a time when you know you wanted something deep down but still searching? Yes. That's right. 

I am always ready to hold your hands in this journey of the unknown. The question is are you ready to face yourself bravely?

 

 

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What you seek in coaching.

 

Coaching is a form of development in which an experienced person, called a coach, supports a leaner or client in achieving a specific personal or professional goal by providing training and guidance.

This is the explanation from Wikipedia.

 

To a certain degree, this is accurate but the innovative way of coach assisting a client is more powerful than giving the answers. It helps the client to achieve specific goals by understanding without judgement.

This is a profession that accompany their client towards solutions-based outcome.

 

Have you come across a time that you do not know what is the niggling feelings that is eating into you? You know you have the answers but it just not coming out. Or there were time when you are feeling very energetic and full of ides but it’s stuck inside your thoughts. Or when you have such a sensational ides but no one understand you.

 

Have you ever wondered what would have happened if you have engaged a coach?

 

A good coach does not pry into the deepest thoughts of a client but manoeuvre it with special skill. This means that what the client’s want to happen will start to form a pattern when the coaching session is conducted. It has to be 100% self-initiated and self-maintain.

 

Are you ready to take the step of knowing what you can do with the resources that you have? Can you smell your success and see your goal materialized? Can you hear your name being pronounced as the best of your field? If yes, contact me NOW because you are ready for your success.

Coaches also need coaching

 Many people have not noticed that most of the profession are attached to a person. That person is an human being also. A surgeon cannot operate on himself no matter how professional he is. A teacher cannot teach herself on topic that is new to her. Therefore , it applies to coaches too. 

As a coach, we need to be as human as possible. Be with the client(s) through their journey of growth. Some carry with them a baggage so heavy that the instant the sit with me, I am already overwhelmed. This is because like all good coaches, we stood by the client(s) state.

When the client come to me, I will already have an idea of what is going to take place. But can I really know what will be the outcome? I can only say that , I am there to work with them to get the solutions that is suitable for them. Then again, do I always give them the solutions?  If you ask this question, it means you have not understand the function of a coach.

You might ask, "then how can you be a good coach?". The answer is just this "as far as I am concern, the client's situation from the time s/he is progressing in the manner suitable for them and they can confidently move towards their goal purposefully, then I am a good coach". 

As a coach, I also have to deal with the ongoing matter beside coaching. Sometimes, when the client(s) are looking for solutions not within their means, it is my duty to bring to their attention that they have other resources to reach their goal. But how do I do this? Well! it's something you will know when you coach with me.

For me, it is a second by second learning. This type of learning is something that have to be experienced by me and I call this coaching. Therefore, if you are a coach and you need a listening ear then just connect with me,

The world is better because of there is another profession call coaching.

How resourceful are you?

Have you ever wonder what makes one more successful from one to another? I do. I keep having this thoughts, what I should do to ensure that my learning is always beneficial. 

Do you know that you have been pushing yourself towards success if you use yourself to the maximun.

It is all within your resources because the value that your unconscious mind have about 11 million b/p/s data  while conscious mind only process about 126 b/p/s data which is 7 plus minus 2 chunks of information. While your conscious mid only take 40 pieces per second.

Awesome right? You are the power house of data sleeping or in other words being compressed and subdue into following. What caused this system to be under utilized?

There are many studies pertaining to this and human beings are somehow missing out these information because certain forces in the world do not want too many people to be smarter than them. They want to control the human as much as possible. That is one of the reason why education remains education with result as the benchmark. This way, human being just chase after ego and reputation. They forgot that there are more values when they let go of these.

Are you one of those who wanted to be the best that society moon about in a mediocre little you. How much have you give up to chase after the recognition without passion? How many of you fear of letting go? This is what keep most people from advancing. Stay safe and stay obedient. The popular proverb of "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush" - rooted many people to the stigma of safety and remove them further to their goal in life.

For those who have reached the age of freedom from responsibility, what have you in hand that is consider you? I do not mean your properties or your asset? What you really have that will bring you through your days with passion and energize each moment?

Age is a blessings which I also must say it is a taboo if I am jobless and homeless. But if you are doing what you love, you only need one thing "You at the best".

I am Peggy Ang - Personal Breakthrough Coach and also an NLP Practitioner. If you need a person to listen and assist you with your goal, contact me, Age is the value we always appreciate.

Look me up.

www.lifejourney9.com

Your Personal Breakthrough Coach

A short story of Far.

Do you know when your life really began to take off for a smooth path? It is when you learn that you are a valuable human being.

I like to tell you a story.

There was this little girl in the village by the name of Far. She is so far from anyone who is close to her as her parents left her to work. She has no idea how far they go but there were that no communication is available. Remember those were the days where communication is about writing letters that might arrive one month later.  She was only 7 years old then. There were no one for her to go back to but thankfully she was enrolled to the school before her parents left. She goes to school as usual and she just survive. She does not know anything about what being a child means. She doesn’t know what it is like to have a family and she don't know what is needed to be a simple girl of 7 years old. God must be taking care of her somehow. She was staying in the area where drugs and brothels are the daily trade of that place. The mouse is as big as the cats and it's always running around as it is their home in the place where she stayed. Playing with the cockroaches is like the fun thing that she can do. That's life at the place that she is staying.

As for the school, it was another different story. She is lucky to have the transportation fetching her to and fro from the school. She attended the school as usual and never was anywhere close to being the top of the class. She is always getting all the red marks on her report cards. She was pretty proud of it too because she does not understand what is the different between red and blue. To her it is just a report card that nobody can sign. She has to give all sort of excuses when the teachers asked to see her parents. The worst part is when teachers have to collect school fees. She has to go into hiding because she has no money to pay and she don't even know where her parents are. Day and night, night and day she waited. Days become months and months become years. Somehow the little girl dying slowly inside. She lost her authenticity of childhood since she didn't experience it the way all children should. To her, she just needs to breathe and stay alive. Even when she was sexually abused, she did not dare to say anything because she is Far - a person that is not important at all. She was always living in fear for months until that guy was caught by the police.  She remembers that she must be a good girl because her mother always said that she was pickup from the garbage dump. 

As she grows older, she knows that in order to be getting some attention she must learn to say "Yes” to do any tasks that is given to her. She will do anything to just have the opportunity of watching television from the gate of her neighbours and stand quietly there. If she is lucky, she might get to go in and sit on the floor watching with the owner of the television. At that time, having a television is like having the whole township bowing to you. 

She learns how to market herself to get the things that she wanted.  She starts to do a lot of chores for neighbours just to get a piece of cake or a slice of goodies because she just does not have that kind of luxury. 

By the time her parents came back, she is already about 9 years old. They keep shifting houses because her parents do not have the money to stay in one place for too long. Furthermore, her father is owing so many people money. She has to go into hiding whenever the loan shark came. Life was really tough for a girl at her age. 

Then things began to get better and at a tender age of 10 she is already babysitting just to get some cakes for her family. She has to cooked and wash clothes for her family while taking care of the younger siblings since her parents are working. Nobody understands her and nobody cares because at an era the older one has to take care of the younger ones. 

Gradually things began to be better for her family but cash is still short. Her money worked very hard to feed the family. Her dreams were all shattered and she just want to make sure she has food and clothes to wear. Things started to settled but the little girl Far, never really leave that sadness during the growing up stage. Her whole life is wasted and she know that her only survival tool is to say "Yes" no matter how much she wants to refuse because she is having so much fear of failing. She always thought that she failed as a person. So, she just uses "Yes” to buy her way.

 

to be continue.....

 

Hope you understand this story is all about standing up for yourself if you have come across similar case like this, please lend a hand to that person. Listen to their pain of growing and assist them to walk out bravely. If you do not have that expertise, feel free to contact me as I will be in touch.