Birth and death - It should comes with blessings. Not Grief.

 There were times that you feel absolutely useless and demotivated. Some people managed to dig out of that with pure determination and pray that they are not hit with another blow within that short period. 

As the cycle of life continues, nobody can stop the events from happening. Be it death or birth. Be it sad or happy. Be it failure or success. The list goes on. The one confirm thing is that when one is born, death is waiting. Do you want to prolong the death or do you want to proceed with living with the knowledge that you will die one of this day?

Based on your observations, who suffer most when the loved one passed away? Take some time to look into this.

I just lost a friend of a close friend. She was not in any way sick but the moment she was hospitalized she was diagnosed with cancer that spread from organs to the brain, she just left the world within days. What causes this to happen? Is it good that she did not need to go through the suffering of treatment and the cost of treatment?

Nobody chooses to be in the situation of grief but it is something that we need to address. 

If the death is unexpected like an accident or the person just well and dandy then the next it's gone. This will normally cause an intensity of feeling loss. Grief will be the response you see in the family and friends.

Modified from Worden, 2009; positivepsychology.com  , the following perceptual experiences, and physical sensations often accompany the grieving processes.

🔮Hollowness in the stomach - a sense of emptiness

🔮Tightness in the throat and chest-look out for those who are having some health conditions.

🔮Being oversensitive to noise- silence is preferred at this moment.

🔮Feelings of unreality-unacceptable to a certain level

🔮Shortness of breath

🔮Muscle weakness and lack of energy - this is why a lot of people might faint

🔮dry mouth

The strong emotions that typically accompany this situation are (modified from Worden, 2009; positivepsycology.com

💔Sadness -unable to accept that death is a fact that caused one to suffer longer.

💔Anger - the dissatisfaction that arises from nowhere that burst into anger of the death.

💔Guilt and self-reproach - many people keep delaying meeting each other until it is too late. Many people left words unsaid until it is too late. When the opportunity is gone with the death, this can cause trauma to one.

💔Anxiety - The sudden emptiness that arises with the passing on of the loved one might cause the living to be lost about what to do. This will then form into anxiety especially when the person who passed away is the stronghold of a family/company/community.

💔Loneliness - this is evident when the relationship between the dead and living is very close-knitted. The one living will feel very rejected to be left behind. Social support is needed at all times until the situation becomes a new normal for the living.

💔Fatigue - The living that is involved might find it exhausting to address the day-to-day life alone. 

💔Helplessness - this can happen as if the carpet is pulled under their feet. They lost all the ability to be in control. This kind of situation is also happening when children left their parents to fend for themselves or vice versa. This is the death of a relationship. 

💔Shock and numbness - this is the normal reaction when it is unexpected. It does not mean that we do not think it is not possible, it is just that nobody can see it happening and it happened. In some cases, the numbness caused the survivor to lose all emotions. It is such a traumatic experience for the survivor too.

💔Yearning - this kind of emotion will keep surfacing whenever the dead are mentioned. It will cure over time depending on the bond of all parties.

💔Emancipation and relief - This is the feeling that I always see in families of those who have been suffering tremendously during their life. They are not relieved because of the death but it is because it ends all the sufferings. This is where peace starts to take place.

How one address grief is different due to the situation presented also might be different. If the grief prolongs then it is time to seek treatment.

I will continue with type of grief in a few days time. For the time being, take time to understand that death will come. Learn how to live life to the fullest so that when death reaches out, it becomes a blessings that we completed our mission on earth and living as human beings.

                                                                     

    Pyace - Pace Your ACE (Accelerate Champion Excellence)

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What is Coaching Industry?

 This is a very broad area? In Malaysia, when you speak on coaching you will most probably have people looking at you with two big eyes as if asking "What is coaching?", "Why do you think I need coaching?", "Do you know that I am perfectly fine without coaching?"

Recently I spoke to a friend who is also a Personal Coach for Biz Entrepreneurs. She told me that a lot of people in China have started to look for coaches and it is in high demand. These kinds of people who look for coaches are people with high potential, good careers, and who advance rapidly toward their goals. 

Then, what is the problem with people who do not do so? They got left behind 1% at a time and it compounded their losses over time. This is because time is the energy of growing one talent. If one person uses the same time to advance while the other is just procrastinating, who do you think will score faster?

You just need to google and you will notice that coaching is a billion-dollar market which spread over all industries. This is one profession that will never run dry or will never let you down no matter which side of the coin that you are in.

Training is teaching you skills that you needed. Consulting is giving you ideas related to your industry and you need to know who is expert enough to be your consultant. This is because the market evolutions are speeding ahead without any consideration of where you are. Mentoring is also a skill that you need from people who knows your needs if not, you will be in deeper trouble than you are now. All these are just part of the needs which were promoted in the market. So, are you confused now?

Do not confuse coaching with training, consulting, mentoring, or therapy. In short, coaching is to help improve people and empowers them to get the outcomes they desire. It is to speed up their process from point A to Point B and face the fall. Yes, everyone falls no matter how good you are. Coaching helps to prepare one from falling badly without any netting. The fall becomes a lesson and advancement in their career. 

Many people want to know what type of coaching is available. The question that you should ask before seeking a coach is as follows:-

1. How much do I want to change/transform?

2. How fast will I want this to happen?

3. What will I need to sacrifice? Time, Money, ego, etc.

4. Will I lose out on anything if I am opening up for coaching? If yes, Am I willing to face myself?

Based on my personal experience, most people failed to move faster or even still stuck because of point 4. 

Find time to write a journal of your life. Write it as clearly as possible and then see how coaching can help you accelerate your achievements.

Good luck with your actions and thoughts thinking process in advancing in your life.

I will share more information on how coaching is the answer to full-blown success for everyone.

Procrastination - is murdering your energy.

 Procrastination is can be a habit if not address immediately. People who procrastinate missed a lot of opportunities in life. They said, in order to build a habit one just need to do it 3 to 5 times. Others said that it takes about 18 to 254 days. Then what happened to all the sciences when I said that it takes second to build. This is because when I was attending a workshop that encourage us to mouth vulgar words, it just stuck with so much energy to me. I do not even think it is wrong to do so. Therefore, do procrastination needs so long? 

 #Wikipedia categorized this as the unwillingness to act even though they know that it is a negative consequences. Then you will ask, why one do it? Good question. Now, why do you do it then? Be honest, we have done this before and maybe in future too. However, what is the cause for people to keep doing it?

Based on the research done, the following are some of the valid reasons for this habits. To me, I believe it is a secondary gain that one seek to have when the procrastinate. Want you to walk with me and check what is actually their reasons which you also might find it absurd.

• Avoidance: Avoiding the location or situation where the task takes place. This could be due to fear of being in that location or situation. 
• Denial and trivialization: Pretending that procrastinatory behavior is not actually procrastinating, but rather a task which is more important than the avoided one, or that the essential task that should be done is not of immediate importance.
• Distraction: Engaging or immersing oneself in other behaviors or actions to prevent awareness of the task.
• Descending counterfactuality: Comparing consequences of one's procrastinatory behavior with others' worse situations.
• Valorisation: Pointing in satisfaction to what one achieved in the meantime while one should have been doing something else.
• Blaming: Delusional attributions to external factors, such as rationalizing that the procrastination is due to external forces beyond one's control.
• Mocking: Using humor to validate one's procrastination.

Now, why then do people still do it? Yes. 

If you are given a choice , what makes one choose the negative ones and not the positive ones? Isn't that a bit of a waste. You are using the same energy to explore the success but you fall of the horses when you procrastinate. 

Think again when you do it in future. Time is energy and procrastination "murder" your energy.

What is Coaching?

 This is a common question asked by many people. They either do not understand or they understand but do not know the purpose. 

Here are some of the explanation which is extracted from various sources :-

Microsoft Bing

Coaching is a form of development in which an experienced person, called a coach, supports a learner or client in achieving a specific personal or professional goal by providing training and guidance. The learner is sometimes call a coachee. Coaching aims to improve performance and focuses on the "here and now" rather than on the past or future. There are many different modes of coaching.

*** This is not the actual explanation.

As a professional coach, I am trained to concentrate on the client and only the client. My duty is to to assist the client in achieving specific goals through a series of processes. No judgement and unwarranted breach of confidentiality by clients is needed. This is the most powerful part, the rapport with clients are so strong that every question that I asked are answered with the story they cannot tell. Incredible because being in the comfort of my space, they feel safe and non judgmental. I do not need to know everything from that coaching session but it will eventually be solved by the client with technique use during the coaching sessions. It is indeed incredible and together we achieve the specific goal of our clients. 

Some of the skills that professional coaches like me is always good at are :-

• Listening
• Passionate about their clients clarity and Empathetic
• Creative, intuitive & curious
• Trained in coaching behaviors and competent
• Flexible to adapt to client's change

Some said that the results are fake because it is not long term. I have to agree that this could happened if:-

• Client or coaches is not committed 
• Actions is not taken to address the real issues
• Hidden agenda of either parties-clarity will not be achieve. Example: If the coachee is being forced to attend or if the payor of the coachee needs a set rules for coaching.

I personally needs the coachee to contact me regardless who is paying the bill. My most important person is the client that I coach. 

The whole process can be complicated or easy , it all depends on the situation and the clients.
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5 Things You Never Knew About Fear

5 Things You Never Knew About Fear

Without darkness, you will not know lights.
Without fear, you will not have clarity.
Today is the day to discover 5 things you neve knew about fear
Understanding the Science of Fear.

 

“Fear is our survival response”, say Northwestern Medicine Clinical Psychologist Zachary Siko
Let’s understand more.

Fear is Physical

It is something that is triggered and create a movie in your mind. In NLP , we identify this as the response of fight or flight. When you need to act immediately to an emergency, you will make the first most spontaneous move. In your choice to flight, you will already anchor fear in this process unconsciously. Your whole body will react to protect your being and this is unknown to you until it become serious. So, it is physical happening that cause unconscious fear- you will not be able to makegood decisions.

Fear Can Make You Foggy

While your brain is going through the identifying process, the rest of your system started to shut down. This will cause the inability of one to make wise decision and sometimes not even able to think clearly. That’s where the screaming and shouting will take place is you are being blamed for a case that you are not responsible for.  You will not be able to rationalize this even if the same situation is repeating itself similar to the last. Your thinking will shut down and you feel you are being the victim of a business deal. Then you will feel foggy.

Fear Can become Pleasure

This is the secondary gain in some instances especially those who are on night duty but fear of the dark orfear of public speaking. You will find ways to be sick and take medical leave whenever this kind of duties are given to you.

Fear Is Not Phobia

Watching a co-worker going through a hardship might leave you traumatized because you are not familiar with the needs. Like a zoo keeper handling tiger might be a job that you do not want. However, you might experience the fear and even though you are working in the zoo and your duty is different. But your daily life you still need to pass the tiger cage. Your ability to function while maintaining a rational reaction is just a single case of fear which have nothing to do with phobia.

Fear Keeps You Safe

“Fear is a natural and biological condition that we all experience “Say Dr Sikora.
“It’s important to experience fear because it keeps us safe”.You must be surprise to hear this. Fear is an emotion that can be positive and healthy which might bring negative emotion. This type of fear are normally another method used by certain people to either find solace or to control a situation. This is the most easy part- in NLP Coaching – we can remove negative emotions of fear easily.

Whatever fear situation that you are in now, our Personal Breakthrough Coaching will help you solve it effortlessly.

Contact me at +60123996326 for an appointment to clarify your needs of this coaching and see the benefits which after removing will give you success.

Information is extracted from:  https://www.nm.org/healthbeat/healthy-tips/emotional-health/5-things-you-never-knew-about-fear

 

 

Negative Emotions

You must be wondering what happened to me right? It's been sometime since I have last written any post. Time is just speeding by when I am having fun discovering what life can brings. I believe yours is also going through a lot of exciting transformation.

Some of you might already know that I am learning NLP. My purpose is pretty simple and I pay a price for that price. Is it worth the time and investment? Well! This experience it like a mature wine, it gets better overtime. This is my generalization based on somewhat knowledge about wine. Please excuse me if I have phrased it out of context. What can I bring to you for your benefits?

Before I answer the what, while I am away from my blog, have you done anything of significant that you can be proud of? No need to answer but just hold those thoughts in your unconscious mind. Do you have any discovery that you are better than old self? If nothing pops up now, it's ok. It will be surfacing soon. It's good to have all your emotions surfacing so that you are aware of it's existence. What makes me say this? This is the interesting part.

Emotions plays a major part in our life. Unconsciously we let them make us feel lousy at time. These are the reasons why you cannot allowed these emotions to harm you.

Anger - Cause heart attack- I am sure you have heard and also know someone who have this happened when they were angry.

Sadness - will weaken your immune system and when prolong it can be a cause for depression. 

Fear - Can cause excessive stress, PTSD,Phobia and most of the time will prevent progress. 

Guilt - will lower your healing energy

Conflict - might be the cause for cancer.

To find out more, you can just google for Indepth understanding of the emotion. Here, I just want to highlight the main issues attracted by you when you do not act on it.

The how is very simple. You need to start with yourself. Your inner self and your pain in life. The discovery might be extraordinary because it is not a step that ordinary people will do. Only people who knows their possibilities and willing to peel of their inner beliefs will achieve the success beyond their expectations.

Then you need to do a lot of reflections and decide how you want to "cure "yourself out of the emotions. Everyone have choices so this is where you make your choices. I did.

Finally, choose the methods you need to overcome and change or transform your life. Everything is possible when you think it is possible and take action. 

My method is pretty clear cut - I embrace the coaching tools and enhance it with NLP. It's a journey of opening pandora boxes every time. Most of the time, I came out a winner and sometimes, I just make a choice.

In life, you choose what you choose to do. The rest is how you do it to get the results you want.  Keep reflecting and take actions.

Personal Breakthrough Program Coaching

 My name is Peggy Ang . I am a Personal Breakthrough Coach. I have been certified under IAC - International Association of Coaching and a NLP Practitioner. Coaching is the best way to educate ourselves into getting what we want. 

They say that only people with expectation and high ambition seek a coach. This is because it helps them to achieve their goals with clarity and accuracy. Some also say that the fear of facing yourself becomes easier when you share it with people who are with you. Non judgmental hearing, seeing you as you are and feeling your emotions with empathy.

Some says that companies are offering higher salaries to retain staff but still not getting any good quality. While others say that employees feel that their company does not appreciate their efforts. How to breach this gap? Coaching Breakthrough Program can be utilized towards this successful collaboration of all parties.

When you are with them and looking for a coach, please contact me via WhatsApp +60123996326 for 1st session of interaction free of charge for 30-45minutes. Virtually done. After that , you can make your decision whether to buy into your own development or not. 

I only accept people who are self-initiated and self-maintained throughout the whole program. This will only be possible after the first session with me.

There are only 4 sessions for which I will assist you to find solutions. My Personal Breakthrough Program is listed below:-

1. Weight Management - when you are looking for your ideal weight.

2. Stop Smoking - when you will achieve your desired life without this.

3. Time management - Time is energy  which converts to $$.  Where to get the extra.

4. Self - development - Looking for a solution within your needs.

5. Work Life Balance - family  , career etc.

6. Don't know, unknown and do not know - removing of limiting decisions and negative emotion.

7. Looking for something - a time when you know you wanted something deep down but still searching? Yes. That's right. 

I am always ready to hold your hands in this journey of the unknown. The question is are you ready to face yourself bravely?

 

 

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