Career create you? Or....

 Interesting to look into our life. Pay attention to your growth. Many people think they are not growing but look at it this way. If you are worst than before, it only means that you are growing negatively or you stopped growing and let others take over you. If you are better than before - Congratulations. You did it.

No matter what direction you are heading, there is only growth. So do not believe it when people say that you never grow and give up. Most people are focusing a lot on the future and the past but forget to reap enjoyment for the present. How many of you are guilty of this? I am.

When everything is happening, we all take advantage and think that it is going to be ok. Do not need to do anything now but plan for the future. For those who are in a stuck state, keep digging into the past and got stuck further into the past. Why does this keep happening when we know that we should:-

1. Learn from the past and let it go.

2. concentrate on the present to get a head

3. aim for the future with clarity

Which part of the equation was missing? You are in a good career and you think everything is going to be fine until you retire. Imagine how surprised you will be when you are to retire earlier. This can be something that is totally unrelated to your performance. When this happened, you start to feel trapped. You start to feel being pushed to the corner. You stop progressing in action though you are speeding ahead in thoughts. All these is call development. However, you feel that you have not seen it before and might fear of the outcome whether you acted on it or not.

The following emotions/feelings might appear: -

Anger- because you felt over worked.

Confused - caused by not being able to make decision.

Scare - when you are unsure who can support you.

Have full control of your emotions and thoughts. Every time you hit the wall, you should be able to bounce back and evaluate the situation.

Remember, no matter what happened you are still the best in what you do when you know why you do it.

Happy weekend.

Symptoms of Early Depression (Wednesday)

 

Adapted from https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/326769

Common symptoms that you should pay attention to in order to notice depression.

Start from the beginning. Depression doesn’t come like a typhoon. It seeps into your life unconsciously.

If it is a habit you have on journaling then use this opportunity to journal down the feelings or emotions you have.

Give a date and time with the situation leading to the 14 symptoms shared here.

 

Suspected Beginning Symptoms	Emotions/Feeling present	Date. time and situation Feeling
Feeling Sad or empty
Felling Hopeless or helpless
Feeling worthless
Felling Excessively guilty
In Interest or pleasure in activities.
Anger and irritability
Feeling Tired and having a lack of energy
Insomnia or lack of sleep
Difficulty concentrating, remembering, and making decisions.
Lack of appetite
Overeating and weight gain
Aches, pains,   and physical symptoms.
Trouble “switching off” the brain
Thoughts of death or suicide.

When all these are present in your life, pay attention and seek help.

Look around you and be as energetic in living in LIFE as ever regardless of the situation.

Feel free to contact me for coaching if you feel you are falling into this trap or if someone you know is falling into this trap. My fees start from MYR100 per 1 hour to MYR1000 per hour.

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When you die, what will life be?

 #richness in #birthanddeath

A solemn topic for most people because death is considered to be sad. Death has always been painted as the end of everything. This is also #taboo to talk about death for many people.

Let me bravely ask you:-

🙇Have you know of anyone who #die before?

🙇Do you know what is the experience of death?

🙇Have you seen the life of people who live but fear death?

Which is more painful? Based on my knowledge the unknown mentioned above is more painful than death. Many people wait at the door of death while they are living. They make arrangements so that they don't have to die. Some are so afraid of dying that they forgot to live.

Yes. I too fear death until I come across an article on how to live because you are dying. Everyone is aware that when there is birth, then there is surely going to be death. Stories people tell are to put fear and be in control of the situation. Years after years, the root cause of fear becomes a dilemma, and totally believe that dying is painful, dying is ugly, and dying must be avoided at all costs.

Now, answer this. Do you think you can stop either birth or death? Maybe birth you can stop by not having any kids but death is unstoppable. 

Therefore, I will pop these questions to you on and off so that you become so alive with motivation when you accept that death will be a #bonus. 

This is also what caused me to be so passionate about embarking on my career as a coach. I help you to live your life with the meaning you wanted at the speed that you need. When you achieve this, every day is an enjoyable challenging, and motivating day. This only happened to people who accepted the fact that living is all about making the best of the life they have. Dying- let fate takes its course. 

Keep living well my friend. There are so many good coaches around to help you through all the difficult moments and you know it and you wanted it. I decided that I will live my life to the fullest because I know dying is a blessing that will come when it needs to come let nature take over. So for now - LET'S LIVE WELL.

#peggyang868 #lifecoaching #birthanddeathvalue #selfvalues #coachingculture #blessingsinlife #livetofullest 

Birth and death - It should comes with blessings. Not Grief.

 There were times that you feel absolutely useless and demotivated. Some people managed to dig out of that with pure determination and pray that they are not hit with another blow within that short period. 

As the cycle of life continues, nobody can stop the events from happening. Be it death or birth. Be it sad or happy. Be it failure or success. The list goes on. The one confirm thing is that when one is born, death is waiting. Do you want to prolong the death or do you want to proceed with living with the knowledge that you will die one of this day?

Based on your observations, who suffer most when the loved one passed away? Take some time to look into this.

I just lost a friend of a close friend. She was not in any way sick but the moment she was hospitalized she was diagnosed with cancer that spread from organs to the brain, she just left the world within days. What causes this to happen? Is it good that she did not need to go through the suffering of treatment and the cost of treatment?

Nobody chooses to be in the situation of grief but it is something that we need to address. 

If the death is unexpected like an accident or the person just well and dandy then the next it's gone. This will normally cause an intensity of feeling loss. Grief will be the response you see in the family and friends.

Modified from Worden, 2009; positivepsychology.com  , the following perceptual experiences, and physical sensations often accompany the grieving processes.

🔮Hollowness in the stomach - a sense of emptiness

🔮Tightness in the throat and chest-look out for those who are having some health conditions.

🔮Being oversensitive to noise- silence is preferred at this moment.

🔮Feelings of unreality-unacceptable to a certain level

🔮Shortness of breath

🔮Muscle weakness and lack of energy - this is why a lot of people might faint

🔮dry mouth

The strong emotions that typically accompany this situation are (modified from Worden, 2009; positivepsycology.com

💔Sadness -unable to accept that death is a fact that caused one to suffer longer.

💔Anger - the dissatisfaction that arises from nowhere that burst into anger of the death.

💔Guilt and self-reproach - many people keep delaying meeting each other until it is too late. Many people left words unsaid until it is too late. When the opportunity is gone with the death, this can cause trauma to one.

💔Anxiety - The sudden emptiness that arises with the passing on of the loved one might cause the living to be lost about what to do. This will then form into anxiety especially when the person who passed away is the stronghold of a family/company/community.

💔Loneliness - this is evident when the relationship between the dead and living is very close-knitted. The one living will feel very rejected to be left behind. Social support is needed at all times until the situation becomes a new normal for the living.

💔Fatigue - The living that is involved might find it exhausting to address the day-to-day life alone. 

💔Helplessness - this can happen as if the carpet is pulled under their feet. They lost all the ability to be in control. This kind of situation is also happening when children left their parents to fend for themselves or vice versa. This is the death of a relationship. 

💔Shock and numbness - this is the normal reaction when it is unexpected. It does not mean that we do not think it is not possible, it is just that nobody can see it happening and it happened. In some cases, the numbness caused the survivor to lose all emotions. It is such a traumatic experience for the survivor too.

💔Yearning - this kind of emotion will keep surfacing whenever the dead are mentioned. It will cure over time depending on the bond of all parties.

💔Emancipation and relief - This is the feeling that I always see in families of those who have been suffering tremendously during their life. They are not relieved because of the death but it is because it ends all the sufferings. This is where peace starts to take place.

How one address grief is different due to the situation presented also might be different. If the grief prolongs then it is time to seek treatment.

I will continue with type of grief in a few days time. For the time being, take time to understand that death will come. Learn how to live life to the fullest so that when death reaches out, it becomes a blessings that we completed our mission on earth and living as human beings.

                                                                     

    Pyace - Pace Your ACE (Accelerate Champion Excellence)

Peggy Ang - Personal Breakthrough Coach

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What is Coaching Industry?

 This is a very broad area? In Malaysia, when you speak on coaching you will most probably have people looking at you with two big eyes as if asking "What is coaching?", "Why do you think I need coaching?", "Do you know that I am perfectly fine without coaching?"

Recently I spoke to a friend who is also a Personal Coach for Biz Entrepreneurs. She told me that a lot of people in China have started to look for coaches and it is in high demand. These kinds of people who look for coaches are people with high potential, good careers, and who advance rapidly toward their goals. 

Then, what is the problem with people who do not do so? They got left behind 1% at a time and it compounded their losses over time. This is because time is the energy of growing one talent. If one person uses the same time to advance while the other is just procrastinating, who do you think will score faster?

You just need to google and you will notice that coaching is a billion-dollar market which spread over all industries. This is one profession that will never run dry or will never let you down no matter which side of the coin that you are in.

Training is teaching you skills that you needed. Consulting is giving you ideas related to your industry and you need to know who is expert enough to be your consultant. This is because the market evolutions are speeding ahead without any consideration of where you are. Mentoring is also a skill that you need from people who knows your needs if not, you will be in deeper trouble than you are now. All these are just part of the needs which were promoted in the market. So, are you confused now?

Do not confuse coaching with training, consulting, mentoring, or therapy. In short, coaching is to help improve people and empowers them to get the outcomes they desire. It is to speed up their process from point A to Point B and face the fall. Yes, everyone falls no matter how good you are. Coaching helps to prepare one from falling badly without any netting. The fall becomes a lesson and advancement in their career. 

Many people want to know what type of coaching is available. The question that you should ask before seeking a coach is as follows:-

1. How much do I want to change/transform?

2. How fast will I want this to happen?

3. What will I need to sacrifice? Time, Money, ego, etc.

4. Will I lose out on anything if I am opening up for coaching? If yes, Am I willing to face myself?

Based on my personal experience, most people failed to move faster or even still stuck because of point 4. 

Find time to write a journal of your life. Write it as clearly as possible and then see how coaching can help you accelerate your achievements.

Good luck with your actions and thoughts thinking process in advancing in your life.

I will share more information on how coaching is the answer to full-blown success for everyone.

Procrastination - is murdering your energy.

 Procrastination is can be a habit if not address immediately. People who procrastinate missed a lot of opportunities in life. They said, in order to build a habit one just need to do it 3 to 5 times. Others said that it takes about 18 to 254 days. Then what happened to all the sciences when I said that it takes second to build. This is because when I was attending a workshop that encourage us to mouth vulgar words, it just stuck with so much energy to me. I do not even think it is wrong to do so. Therefore, do procrastination needs so long? 

 #Wikipedia categorized this as the unwillingness to act even though they know that it is a negative consequences. Then you will ask, why one do it? Good question. Now, why do you do it then? Be honest, we have done this before and maybe in future too. However, what is the cause for people to keep doing it?

Based on the research done, the following are some of the valid reasons for this habits. To me, I believe it is a secondary gain that one seek to have when the procrastinate. Want you to walk with me and check what is actually their reasons which you also might find it absurd.

• Avoidance: Avoiding the location or situation where the task takes place. This could be due to fear of being in that location or situation. 
• Denial and trivialization: Pretending that procrastinatory behavior is not actually procrastinating, but rather a task which is more important than the avoided one, or that the essential task that should be done is not of immediate importance.
• Distraction: Engaging or immersing oneself in other behaviors or actions to prevent awareness of the task.
• Descending counterfactuality: Comparing consequences of one's procrastinatory behavior with others' worse situations.
• Valorisation: Pointing in satisfaction to what one achieved in the meantime while one should have been doing something else.
• Blaming: Delusional attributions to external factors, such as rationalizing that the procrastination is due to external forces beyond one's control.
• Mocking: Using humor to validate one's procrastination.

Now, why then do people still do it? Yes. 

If you are given a choice , what makes one choose the negative ones and not the positive ones? Isn't that a bit of a waste. You are using the same energy to explore the success but you fall of the horses when you procrastinate. 

Think again when you do it in future. Time is energy and procrastination "murder" your energy.

What is Coaching?

 This is a common question asked by many people. They either do not understand or they understand but do not know the purpose. 

Here are some of the explanation which is extracted from various sources :-

Microsoft Bing

Coaching is a form of development in which an experienced person, called a coach, supports a learner or client in achieving a specific personal or professional goal by providing training and guidance. The learner is sometimes call a coachee. Coaching aims to improve performance and focuses on the "here and now" rather than on the past or future. There are many different modes of coaching.

*** This is not the actual explanation.

As a professional coach, I am trained to concentrate on the client and only the client. My duty is to to assist the client in achieving specific goals through a series of processes. No judgement and unwarranted breach of confidentiality by clients is needed. This is the most powerful part, the rapport with clients are so strong that every question that I asked are answered with the story they cannot tell. Incredible because being in the comfort of my space, they feel safe and non judgmental. I do not need to know everything from that coaching session but it will eventually be solved by the client with technique use during the coaching sessions. It is indeed incredible and together we achieve the specific goal of our clients. 

Some of the skills that professional coaches like me is always good at are :-

• Listening
• Passionate about their clients clarity and Empathetic
• Creative, intuitive & curious
• Trained in coaching behaviors and competent
• Flexible to adapt to client's change

Some said that the results are fake because it is not long term. I have to agree that this could happened if:-

• Client or coaches is not committed 
• Actions is not taken to address the real issues
• Hidden agenda of either parties-clarity will not be achieve. Example: If the coachee is being forced to attend or if the payor of the coachee needs a set rules for coaching.

I personally needs the coachee to contact me regardless who is paying the bill. My most important person is the client that I coach. 

The whole process can be complicated or easy , it all depends on the situation and the clients.
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