Revenge! Is this Richness of your LIFE?

Revenge is the act of one inflicting or harming another who might have wronged them in the past. The desire to take revenge comes from a positive intention of getting justice for one but the act of revenge is totally a negative act and causes more harm than good. Two wrongs done make a right.

The focal point of revenge branches into the following category.

 

1.    Intent: - An act that is fully in control of the doer with the intention to hurt and harm only.

 

2.    Negative emotion: - life is hard enough without positive emotion, when you add negative emotion, your life becomes tougher. Health becomes worse. Even your facial expressions become toxic.

 

3.    Retribution: You just wanted an answer to satisfy your own ego. If this is always other people's fault, who is the one giving them this right? THINK!

 

4.    Cyclical Nature: Revenge is cyclical nature. Your revengeful act will not have any ending. In the end, you are just looping and looping. The hurt will remain and the issues will never settle.

 

5.    Emotional Toll: Seeking revenge is so tiring for one who is just doing it out of anger or ego. It is all concentrating on the past. You forgot about the fact that you can never change the past. In the same instances, you lose your future.

 

Do you still want revenge? Is this your life or is this your prison?

What is your awareness of life?

After attending today's event by Winston Chew on Emotional Excellence in Coaching. I decided to share this piece of my thoughts.

Definition of Life: Life can indeed be defined as the existence of an individual human being or animal. It's the sum of experiences, consciousness, and the passage of time.

Living Life: Living life is a highly personal and subjective experience. Different people have different ways of approaching it. Some seek adventure, others prioritize stability, and some might even find solace in simplicity. How one lives life depends on their values, beliefs, and circumstances.

Knowledge and Life: It's true that we don't have all the knowledge about life, and there's always something new to learn. However, the pursuit of knowledge and self-discovery is an essential part of the human experience. We learn from our experiences, from others, and from seeking knowledge actively.

Challenges and Choices: Life can indeed be challenging, and people face difficult circumstances that lead to feelings of confusion or despair. It's essential to reach out for support in such situations, whether through friends, family, or professional help. Making choices in life can be influenced by our values, beliefs, emotions, and circumstances. Reflecting on your choices and seeking positive actions is a valuable practice.

Responsibility: Taking responsibility for your actions is a fundamental aspect of personal growth and maturity. It means acknowledging the consequences of your decisions, both good and bad, and learning from them. It also involves being accountable for your choices and their impact on yourself and others.

Coaching Culture: Promoting a coaching culture can be a valuable approach to help individuals grow and make better choices in life. Coaching encourages self-awareness, goal setting, and continuous improvement.

Gratitude and Learning: Expressing gratitude for the past, embracing mistakes, and learning from them are healthy attitudes that can lead to personal growth and a more positive outlook on life.

To remember that you have a life because you are SPECIAL. Keep living well and keep learning with me.

What have you taken for granted?

 Monkey see, monkey do.

Many people use this sentence but failed to notice that they themselves are an example to the people around them. This is because I was also one of the monkeys until I started to pay attention with clarity on all my actions and speech.

Let me tell you a story. This is the story between my grandniece and her teacher.

Teacher: What is the taste of apples?

My grandniece: it is salty.

Teacher: was shocked.

Then the teacher was curious and asked her parents thinking that my grandniece could have some confusion in taste. 

Do you know why? It is because her grandma always soaks the apples in salt water before letting them consume the apples.

You see. this is what happened. When a good intention changes the nature of anything. 

Therefore, if you come across any disagreements - always get the story from the horse's mouth.

Learning - is it necessary?

 Learning - is good. But using your knowledge is more important. What makes me say this? I went into full learning mode during pandemic because of the need to upskill myself. I have never been so intense in learning since I was super busy with family and business. Guess pandemic stopped me from dying of exhaustion and take time to smell the flowers. How many of you can resonate with this.

Based on historical data humans were hunters and gathers, children are the source of which work, and play is a combination of how one live. When Revolution hit the globe, people are sent to work in the agriculture lands and manufacturing plants. This in turn created landowners and lords. Next came the education system which happened during the 17th century, and it evolved into what we identify as the structure for education now. Then competition was put in as a form of test and exams. A scary phase for a lot of people which caused a lot of nail-biting situations. Depression, hatred, jealousy etc started to flow into the environment of learning. Something that is enjoyable as a tool of survival become a tool of killing emotions.

I like to share a real-life situation of mine. When my daughter was in Standard four of her primary school, her book went missing. She was so worried and decided to tell me. I advise her to confess to the teacher and take whatever punishments that came her way though it is not her fault. I will not go to the school to help her because I know she is capable of handling this on her own. Like an obedient child she has done what I taught her. To my surprise, she was accused lying. That she is making an excuse for not submitting her homework. This is my last straw because I taught her to be honest and be open to accepting any kind of punishment whenever she did anything wrong. To be accused of lying is a big sin for a teacher to do. This I settled with a strong letter to the headmaster. When it was settled, the teacher did not apologize. I accepted that because during that time the elders do not apologies no matter what happened. Two years later, her book appears on her desk. What does this tell you about being good in your education? 

There are cases where children are so stress that they dare not go home because they got a result that is not as good as the last one. They become very stressed and disturbed. 

20 years fast forward, I am glad that this kind of competition have slowly been replaced with understanding. However, I know of people who have their children going to tuition after tuition, special classes and etc. I hope their decisions does benefit the children when they all are in the world of working.

Fun and play are gone. In their place is repetition of hard work in a rat race.  

For the future generation of parents and children's which directions are you taking in view of all the historical data on learning. 

I just wish we have fun, play and learning all well balanced in this world of difference.                                                                                                        

Career create you? Or....

 Interesting to look into our life. Pay attention to your growth. Many people think they are not growing but look at it this way. If you are worst than before, it only means that you are growing negatively or you stopped growing and let others take over you. If you are better than before - Congratulations. You did it.

No matter what direction you are heading, there is only growth. So do not believe it when people say that you never grow and give up. Most people are focusing a lot on the future and the past but forget to reap enjoyment for the present. How many of you are guilty of this? I am.

When everything is happening, we all take advantage and think that it is going to be ok. Do not need to do anything now but plan for the future. For those who are in a stuck state, keep digging into the past and got stuck further into the past. Why does this keep happening when we know that we should:-

1. Learn from the past and let it go.

2. concentrate on the present to get a head

3. aim for the future with clarity

Which part of the equation was missing? You are in a good career and you think everything is going to be fine until you retire. Imagine how surprised you will be when you are to retire earlier. This can be something that is totally unrelated to your performance. When this happened, you start to feel trapped. You start to feel being pushed to the corner. You stop progressing in action though you are speeding ahead in thoughts. All these is call development. However, you feel that you have not seen it before and might fear of the outcome whether you acted on it or not.

The following emotions/feelings might appear: -

Anger- because you felt over worked.

Confused - caused by not being able to make decision.

Scare - when you are unsure who can support you.

Have full control of your emotions and thoughts. Every time you hit the wall, you should be able to bounce back and evaluate the situation.

Remember, no matter what happened you are still the best in what you do when you know why you do it.

Happy weekend.

Symptoms of Early Depression (Wednesday)

 

Adapted from https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/326769

Common symptoms that you should pay attention to in order to notice depression.

Start from the beginning. Depression doesn’t come like a typhoon. It seeps into your life unconsciously.

If it is a habit you have on journaling then use this opportunity to journal down the feelings or emotions you have.

Give a date and time with the situation leading to the 14 symptoms shared here.

 

Suspected Beginning Symptoms	Emotions/Feeling present	Date. time and situation Feeling
Feeling Sad or empty
Felling Hopeless or helpless
Feeling worthless
Felling Excessively guilty
In Interest or pleasure in activities.
Anger and irritability
Feeling Tired and having a lack of energy
Insomnia or lack of sleep
Difficulty concentrating, remembering, and making decisions.
Lack of appetite
Overeating and weight gain
Aches, pains,   and physical symptoms.
Trouble “switching off” the brain
Thoughts of death or suicide.

When all these are present in your life, pay attention and seek help.

Look around you and be as energetic in living in LIFE as ever regardless of the situation.

Feel free to contact me for coaching if you feel you are falling into this trap or if someone you know is falling into this trap. My fees start from MYR100 per 1 hour to MYR1000 per hour.

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When you die, what will life be?

 #richness in #birthanddeath

A solemn topic for most people because death is considered to be sad. Death has always been painted as the end of everything. This is also #taboo to talk about death for many people.

Let me bravely ask you:-

🙇Have you know of anyone who #die before?

🙇Do you know what is the experience of death?

🙇Have you seen the life of people who live but fear death?

Which is more painful? Based on my knowledge the unknown mentioned above is more painful than death. Many people wait at the door of death while they are living. They make arrangements so that they don't have to die. Some are so afraid of dying that they forgot to live.

Yes. I too fear death until I come across an article on how to live because you are dying. Everyone is aware that when there is birth, then there is surely going to be death. Stories people tell are to put fear and be in control of the situation. Years after years, the root cause of fear becomes a dilemma, and totally believe that dying is painful, dying is ugly, and dying must be avoided at all costs.

Now, answer this. Do you think you can stop either birth or death? Maybe birth you can stop by not having any kids but death is unstoppable. 

Therefore, I will pop these questions to you on and off so that you become so alive with motivation when you accept that death will be a #bonus. 

This is also what caused me to be so passionate about embarking on my career as a coach. I help you to live your life with the meaning you wanted at the speed that you need. When you achieve this, every day is an enjoyable challenging, and motivating day. This only happened to people who accepted the fact that living is all about making the best of the life they have. Dying- let fate takes its course. 

Keep living well my friend. There are so many good coaches around to help you through all the difficult moments and you know it and you wanted it. I decided that I will live my life to the fullest because I know dying is a blessing that will come when it needs to come let nature take over. So for now - LET'S LIVE WELL.

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