THE IAC COACHING MASTERIES™ Number One

 Many people are wondering how coaching can help individual to achieve their goals. How it is possible to bring one from the lowest state of mind to the best of their mind? How to overcome barriers and many more.

As a coach, I believe in the journey of collaboration. Between you and the coach first then a journey within the inner path. It is not spiritual but it is like activating the AI in you. You have everything possible to achieve whatever you aim to achieve, you just needed a tool. This is what I call "THE COACHING JOURNEY"

I am sharing the IAC Masteries for your understanding that it is not purely for people who are in trouble or who are problematic. It is for people who are wanting more than what they have. It is for people who know they have all those values that needed explorations to give birth to their own world. It is also a search engine for inner values extractions.

Today I will start with IAC Masteries Number 1

- 1. Establishing and maintaining a relationship of trust

Definition

Coaches ensure that the client has a safe and supportive relationship for personal growth, discovery and transformation.

Nearly all who undergo coaching are top management and business owners. What happened to the rest of the populations? Do you ever think about transforming into a higher you?

The effect of coaching just with a combination of the IAC Masteries within one conversation.

1. The comfort zone allow you to openly share your thoughts and receive your own ideas clearly.

2. Coaches become your personal advocates aka your mirror.

3. You see the transformation is possible and growth is also manageable because it is motivated by your own ability to move ahead.

4. The outcome is realistic expectations of results and responsibilities of coaching.

Key Elements

1. Mutual respect and acceptance. There is no right or wrong on what you have done or what you are going to do but you know it when you go through the process.

2. Confidence and reassurance that will arise from these coaching sessions.

3. You will feel very safe because we are coaches , we do not judge.

This are some information extracted and modify for your understanding. When you are going through a coaching session, you will see that it takes more than what meet the eyes to ensure your rapport with the coach is the key towards your success.

If you are interested to be a coach then you will have the coach's program line up so perfectly that you just need to be you.

For more information, please email to me at peggyangprivate@outlook.com

What is rapport building?

 In a world that is full of possibilities, many people think that they are the possibilities. This is a good sign of advancement. However, how many people really dive into the possibilities to extract the value that they wanted?

Here are some places where rapport have to start:-

Your tools -

a. smiling face

b. a good sounding questions start with the easiest thing around you

c. listen with joy.

Scenario 1: Dialogue with Family

You, the protagonist, are speaking to your younger sister, Sarah, who just started high school.

You: Hey, Sarah! How was your first day of high school?

Sarah: It was okay, I guess. I don't know anyone there.

You: Don't worry, you'll make friends in no time. Remember, I was nervous when I started too. If you ever need help with anything, just let me know.

Sarah: Thanks, that makes me feel better.

Scenario 2: Dialogue with Team

You're a project manager in a creative agency talking to your design team about a new client project.

You: Team, I'm really excited about this new project. I think our client's vision aligns perfectly with our creative strengths. What are your initial thoughts?

Designer 1: I love the concept, but I'm not sure how to approach the branding.

You: That's a valid concern. Let's brainstorm some ideas together, and we'll find a solution that works for everyone.

Scenario 3: Dialogue with Bosses

You're in a meeting with your supervisors discussing your performance and future opportunities within the company.

Boss 1: Your recent work has been outstanding. We're considering you for a leadership role in the upcoming project.

You: Thank you so much for the opportunity. I'm really excited about the possibility of taking on more responsibilities and contributing to the team's success.

Scenario 4: Dialogue with Those Around You

You're at a neighborhood gathering, talking to a new neighbor, Alex.

You: Hi, Alex! Welcome to the neighborhood. How are you finding it so far?

Alex: It's been great. People here are so friendly.

You: Absolutely! We have a close-knit community. If you ever need anything or want to join in any of our neighborhood events, just let me know. We'd love to have you involved.

In each of these scenarios, the key to building rapport is active listening, empathy, and showing genuine interest in the other person's thoughts and feelings. By doing so, you establish trust and strengthen your relationships in various aspects of your life.

What is the reason you need a coach like me.

 **Your coach Portfolio: Cultivating a Coaching Culture and Embracing Life's Journey**

*Introduction:*

Welcome to my portfolio, where I proudly share my journey, passion, and commitment to making a difference in our community and beyond. I firmly believe that time is our most valuable investment, and my mission revolves around cultivating a coaching culture, nurturing inner values, and promoting acceptance of a topic often avoided - death. Join me on this transformative journey as I bridge the gap between the inner self, the outer self, and the external environment.

**Investing Time in Society:**

In my eyes, time is not just a fleeting resource; it's an investment in our society's growth and well-being. My dedication to the betterment of our community drives me to channel my efforts into fostering a coaching culture. Through coaching, I aim to empower individuals to reach their full potential, unlocking a life full of possibilities. It's not about material wealth but the inner values that truly define a successful life.

**Embracing the Journey of Life:**

Between the bookends of birth and death lies a significant aspect - the journey of life, which I symbolize as 'J.' This journey is where we find our purpose, learn, grow, and make meaningful connections. It is my firm belief that by guiding individuals through this journey, we can uncover their true potential and help them lead more fulfilling lives.

**Championing the Acceptance of Death:**

Death is a subject often shrouded in taboo, particularly within my community. My work extends to coaching people into accepting death as a natural part of life. By addressing this often-avoided topic, we can find solace, clarity, and a greater appreciation for the time we have.

**Building the Bridge of Communication:**

To achieve these goals, I am committed to building a bridge of communication that spans three critical levels:

1. **Inner Self (Unconscious Mind):** Understanding and harnessing the power of our unconscious mind is key to personal growth. Through coaching, I help individuals tap into their inner potential, overcome obstacles, and develop a deeper sense of self-awareness.

2. **Outer Self (Conscious Mind):** Our conscious mind plays a significant role in our daily choices and actions. By coaching individuals to align their conscious thoughts and actions with their inner values, we create a pathway to a more purposeful life.

3. **External Environment:** Our surroundings have a profound impact on our well-being. By coaching individuals to navigate and influence their external environment positively, we empower them to create the conditions for success and happiness.

**Conclusion:**

This portfolio is a testament to my commitment to making a meaningful impact on individuals and society as a whole. Through the cultivation of a coaching culture, embracing life's journey, and championing the acceptance of death, I aspire to help people lead richer, more purposeful lives. Time is indeed a precious investment, and I am dedicated to investing it wisely in the betterment of our community and beyond. Thank you for joining me on this transformative journey, and together, we can create a brighter future.

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2. your intention for this 15 minutes zoom meeting

3. your curiosity of your own life.

What I do not need:-

1. your phone number or ID number

2. who you are important to.

This 15-minute zoom meeting is purely for those who have the need to expand your own experiences and be able to use that as their path towards advancement in their life. It is not a free coaching session for everyone.

If I am the one for you, get in touch.

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Congruence of Mind and Heart

 Many years ago, I did not think so much but just moved ahead in what I believed was my ability to achieve. That has helped me to a certain level. As time passes, the need to upgrade must come in to support my growth.

The journey begins for this search but sustainability is the biggest obstacle faced by me. My inner obstacles. What makes me work harder than ever is that many of you out there have the same as mine. This effort is not only for me, it is also my present for those who understand this need to keep upgrading and our families. Someone has to take the lead. If not you and me then who?

Where do we start then? Let's begin with the end in mind. It's the congruence between the heart and mind that can help us achieve this possibility.

My previous sharing about revenge has diverted towards solutions. Upon seeking the solutions, I came across the steps that can make us change our choices in life. How to make a profit out of revenge in the mindset and heart? How do both agree in all aspects of life?

Let's begin and I hope you notice the values you get when you decide to accept. When you decided to move on bravely.

1.  Self-awareness 

     Begin by searching internally. Find out what is your own values, desires, and priorities.

2.  Authenticity

    Be honest with yourself. What you want and who you need to be are two different parts of your life.       you are doing everything to fit into your daily modus operandi as a responsible person but what are         your responsibility towards your own happiness? 

3. Intention.

    Set your intention clear. What you have as an answer in authenticity should have given you that              internal needs to search further.

4. Mindfulness

    Do you believe in death as in birth? If yes, then you already know that you are the one making                a decision for death. Make a conscious note of this every moment you find it pops up.

5. Integrity

    Keep your values and principles even when you are faced with any challenges and temptations.              Consistency is key to this advancement towards your life.

6. Self-compassion

    This is crucial. Many people keep stabbing themselves over and over. Each time the intensity                 becomes stronger. Act kind to yourself and forgive yourself. Each mistake builds your staircase to            success.

7. Balance

    Make your life a balance between spirit, health and your core values.

8.  Gratitude

     Have a habit of expressing gratitude towards life. You can and you will when you reflect on how far       you have gone. Even if you failed at this moment, you can sign your own guarantee of the future in         the best way possible. Do you know why? It's because you found yourself.

9. Empathy

    Having empathy gives you the key to understanding the situation and seek clarity in the calamity of        life. If being at the other people's shoes is not your style then just observe. Make decisions when you      have it clearly presented in the way needed.

10. Reflect and adjust

      When you are out of radar, do the best you can. Realign back by reflecting and adjusting to life               situation. Give yourself a chance to pivot back to a life that you want and a life than you can                   achieve.

Consciously you observe and move ahead strongly. Hold on to your principles and values and keep fostering your heart and mind so that it is all helping you to work towards the same goal.

I will keep working the best in ensuring I can share more valuable information and hope when you grow, please help me "Grow others too".

     

 

Richness in Communication

Sources indicated that communication dated back as far as 500,000 BCE while some indicated that it is about 100,000 BCE. The evolution on communication is happening every zeptosecond. Big word that causes no meaning to us. But this is what makes life memorable.  A small word can change the whole situation.

Then what does communication means? There are four types of Communcation which is known to us.

1. Verbal - different languages have different understanding of certain words and the tone of them too. It is pretty difficult to imagine this, but I will use a common joke that is used locally.

   When a woman tells you that they don't mind. Do your really think they don't mind? Then think again. 

2. Nonverbal. This is a very powerful weapon. Close your eyes now. Imagine your mother's expression when you are out of line in public. Ya! That's right. You got this.

3. Visual- By looking at things, you can speak millions of words without uttering any words. Take a look at people you like and people you dislike. Look at the eyes and see the emotions behind each smile.

4. Written communication. If written words can really give meaning to one then you are definitely a good writer. Even in the midst of preparing this blog, I am not sure you really get the meaning behind the written blog. I am doing my best and hope you do the same too when you write anything that needs resolutions. If you have a knack for writing powerful messages even to your enemy, then you have won a war without weapon.

Do you know that these can cause a lot of situations?  It can break or make a person into something totally out of their own character.

I am sure in this era, you have read or heard things that are unreal, but you believe. So, what do you gain from this? Do you think it is knowledge of the thing that might not be of any use to you, but you participated anyway. This is the gig economy era; everyone is using communication to slice into a market. Some words are used by the keyboard warrior to agitate more intense emotion. I am not saying all keyboard warriors are bad, they did what they think at that time which deem positive to them. For the reader, if you do not use your wisdom then you are too the cause for all the results. This is frequently used to hoax public about death of anyone.

In the future, when you come across anything toxic then you should have the ability to reevaluate the situation. You just need to google sources from the internet. If you really do not have solid evidence of the situation, then what can you do?

Previously, I wrote about Richness in Solutions. The solutions are for revengeful emotion. Communication can be the cause; it can also be the remedy. Think, Think and Think. This is to save you from hurting yourself,

Always remember, coaching gives clarity. If you know how to do this, then you will find the solutions in communication is also powerful in your conversation.

Forgiveness is RICH.

 The funny part of life is mistakes happen when you are too careful. Am I right to say this? In my path to share and encourage growth, I need to face a lot of challenges. Thankfully, revenge is not one of them. 

I learned forgiveness in hate. Surprised? Don't be. It is what you know that hurts you when you do not discover the root cause of that issue.

If you are reading this, it means that you have gone through my article on "Solutions is RICH".

Let's see what is there in forgiveness.

1.     Release of Negative Emotions

The art of forgiveness is like opening a door to life. It allows you to let go of all the negative emotions and fill them up with compassion. You can then free yourself from the extra baggage that does not have any purpose.

2.     Healing and Emotional well-being

Emotional healing is crucial to mental health. How do take survive when you are sick with hate and revengeful thoughts? You only will cause yourself more harm. If those who harm you are evil, you just give them another bonus. Forgive yourself for even thinking about revenge.

3.     Restoration of Inner Peace

Many people only find time to restore inner peace when they have a big blow from something bad or evil. This is the time to forgive and look in as you will definitely find the solutions are within your reach.

4.     Empowerment

Forgiveness is a choice. When you start to forgive, you will only see the beauty of your power. When you are hold on by revenge, you just handed your happiness like a remote control to your enemy. Think about this properly.

5.     Improved relationship

Revenge creates its own evil. It will grow into your mindset and jeopardize your relationship with those who love and care for you. This is because of the energy that you are emitting. You will always be in pain and people who are important in your life might leave you. So you better wake up and learn the art of forgiveness.

6.     Promotes Compassion and understanding

Forgiving someone takes a lot of guts and compassion. In order for you to achieve this status, you need to be wise. Find out the root cause and evaluate it. Are you sure that you are not the cause?

7.     Personal Growth

When you forgive, it is like a big stone lifted out from your heart and soul. The world becomes brighter the brain functions better. Everything that is bad or negative that happened to you has a reason. It is always there to teach us the beauty of our life. So what have you learned from this? Forget about revenge.

8.     Breaking the Cycle

In my previous posting, revenge is cyclical and always loops around your life. Good things will be bad and bad things will be more. You again have a choice to make this change.

9.     Spiritual and Philosophical benefits

Revenge eats you alive. It torments you every second of the day. How much more energy you can get if this happens? Now, if you learn to forgive then you have to release yourself spiritually and mentally from being tortured. This gives you many more benefits for the future. Think again about what benefits you have from taking revenge.

10. Letting go of the Past

The past is the past. Nobody and nothing can change that. What you get from the past is learning. Learning to be a better you. Learning to have a better life. Learning to be more successful and so on. Which will benefit you more? Past, present, or future? Your call.

 

As a Personal breakthrough coach, I do have clients who are having this. When they see the opportunities they have, revenge is irrelevant.

Please share if you love yourself as much as you love others.

Richness in Solutions

If you are reading this, it means that you might have read my topic on "Revenge! Is this Richness of your LIFE?"

The solution you are poisoned by revenge is a long journey. Since revenge does not bring anyone any benefits, let's dive into the solutions as an alternative to a better and richer life.

1. Forgiveness
This comes up as the top solution to revenge. This is the most powerful tool too.
It does not mean that you can forget and condone the wrongdoing. It simply means that by forgiving, you release yourself from being hurt in the future. There are more than this so please read my next posting "Forgiveness is rich"

2. Communication
Having a coaching conversation with your coach or the people that you trust might give you a clearer picture of the incident. It could just be a simple misunderstanding. If it is not attended the it becomes toxic and the pile-up of toxicity will happen. This is one of the most common reasons revenge appears in your life.

3. Seek mediation
If you are not able to communicate due to reasons which you only know then look for a trustworthy mediator. I personally like to face my problems or issues head-on because I get clarity faster and life becomes easier.

4. Legal Recourse
If laws are involved in your case, then settling it by seeking legal action will be a wise choice. Chinese have a proverb that said, “The more you repair, the blacker it will be”. Just face the truth because it might not be what you think it was.

5. Self-Care
Promote your self-care routine. Engaging in activities like yoga, meditation, singing, exercise or even traveling will be very therapeutic in addressing revenge intention.

6. Empathy
Use empathy to understand what causes the other person to hurt you. What was their intention? You might not like their way but with empathy, you might understand the cause.

7. Let Time Heal
Time is the best healer of all. Give yourself some breathing space and take a break for you to recover.

8. Focus on Positive Outcome
I used to be a drama queen and always went into chaos whenever anything happened. Though I do not have any need to take revenge, this point draws meaning. When I started to view all as positive, the solutions is pretty simple. The law of attraction will then circulate positive energy for me. This can be a good way to eliminate revenge from your list.

9. Support Network
We always say good friends are like jewels. A handful of these friends will bring you out of the revenge mood. This is also the best solution to have therefore keep your friendship strong with them.

10. Coaching culture
You can also seek coaches like me to support you on your journey in life without revenge. All solutions are embedded within you and you will know the answers through coaching. Coaching also is a way for one to share in a safe and private space of your own.


Revenge is actually an act of hurting yourself and those who love you. Are you ready to release this pain and live a life full of happiness? The choice is ALWAYS YOURS.