Miracle of life

When you are born into a rich family that turned poor during your childhood days, life becomes extremely hard. I have good parents but my dad was being "spoiled" by my grandparents that he are not able to face the fact for many years. Luckily, my mom took it upon herself to bring us up by being a tailor. She have to work day and night without stopping. At that time, the workmanship of a men's shirt is only MYR2.50. My eldest sister also helped a lot. She did not continue with her education even though she is a very good student. She have come out to work and help my mom in supporting our family. When I was 10 years old, my youngest sister were born. Cute bubbly little baby girl who have now a very successful lady. During this time, my mom took up a stall at the Melaka Bus Station. My eldest sister diligently help her out without complaints. She is one of the elite lady born into a poor family. If not, she would have been a fashion icon now. She can really draw and design clothes. I hope she will take it up as a hobby now that she is LOL. My mom have to make sure we have enough to eat and once or twice a year we will have a sumptuous meal. My mom is a good cook in her own way. In the environment of nothingness we grew up. Despite all this difficulty, our family always have high regards of cultural values. We are make to greet our elders, respect their decision(s) and always polite in our way. This is partly the success story of our family. To cut the story short, I grew up with a vision that I must be able to afford things that I wanted and I will no longer face this kind of hardship. I make a vow that when I completed my Form 5 at the age of 18, I will make my own money. And I am glad to say from that day onwards, I have not taken a cent from my parents. I helped to finance my family by working. I worked hard but not so smart. My first job was at a optical shop. I have a good boss who took good care of me. Then I move on to be a waitress in a restaurant. The things got ugly here because there are two bosses, they are never agreeing with each other. Both are married men without ethics. One nearly raped me and that's when I decided I have to get out of this life. Somehow I did. Thank God for showing me the way. From there, I manage to get a job with then the Renaissance Melaka. At that time, hotel reputation is very shady but I manage to convince my parents that it is changing. This is where my entrance to hospitality started.
Till now, I still believe this is a miracle to be here today.
To be continue.

Do you understand Karma?

I had an interesting night before. Listening to Sadhguru youtube always keep me awake till the wee hours of the morning. He said " Every idea, every thought, every emotion, every value that you have -is picked up from somewhere and it rules you from within". Suddenly it hit me. Let me ask you something if you are the believer of Karma. How often you blame karma for all the bad things that happened to you and what is the frequency of you thankful for the good things that karma bring? I am guilty of this. Whenever something good happen then I said I must be lucky or the lucky star just shine on me. But karma will always be the blame for anything that happened to be wrong or bad. Am I looking for a reason to shift this blame from me to something else? If knowing karma can help me to change for the better then I would be without pain or learning. It is not that I am sadist enough to embrace pain but when you have to cross the path, you just have to do it. Each experiences left me with something. It is again, a choice. A choice of whether I want to think it a problem or a solution. Humanity have been hypnotizing us into a creature of negativity. If anything is being bring up front for discussion, the first impulse is always the negative one. I am really blessed that I have manage to discard some of these kind of feeling, I still have to work hard in ensuring the my inner self is strong and positive. This is why Sadhguru's statement me hit me at the right place. I am what I draw out from within. I cannot blame God, the government , the friends, colleagues etc for my failure to discipline my thoughts. I must be my own creation of success.  I must be the one who take the first steps into realisation of the inner core value within me. Only by doing this I can leap into the future with a drive of positivity. Many times, I think people are wrong just because I want to be right. In our culture , being right is so important because it is also a status. A silly notion but what you are born into, you do not have control over. I can only change how I want to be by accepting and moving on as an individual that believe everything have a reason for it's birth in front of me. I just need to exhale and then the positivity will come. Do you think it is so easy? hahaha!!! No such miracle. Everyday is a battle of feelings with myself. Luckily, I master the coaching philosophy, the 9 masteries in coaching. With a clearer vision and by coaching people, this action of realisation is faster and it is also a tools to help my coachees. If I have not experience all this before, I will be just a coach doing things because of what I have been taught. The zombie coach. This is not the reason I took up coaching. I am in it for the betterment of everyone within and out of my network. This is also why I am human first before I am a coach. We are gifted with 5 senses and many different feelings. If  I have not went thru all the thick and thin, I will definately be a bad coach. I want to leave a legacy that my coachees will always achieve their dream life. If you are keen to be coach or if you think that I can be a coach for someone, drop me a line at 4ms@coacheecoach.com

Me towards future- The new norm.

Blogging is something which I like but unable to really cement on it. This is due to the limitation of my ability to express in English. I came from a Convent school and the only English I have is just the conversation with my classmates and the nuns. Therefore, grammar is such a challenge for me. This is also part of the reason I did not make an effort to push myself years back. I feel that I do not have the money, the talent, the smartness etc to do it. Only recently I notice that it is all because of my mindset. Is it too late for me? I woke up to the fact that I am in this situation because I cannot change if I do not want to face the pain. All changes are painful for it to be successful. What is it that will allowed or force me to overcome this pain? I am typing this while listening to Vishen Lakhiani.  He is sharing his past experience and what have helped him to be successful today.  He have also helped me to see that in order to succeed, there is a need for me to pin down my abilities and needs. Practice makes perfect is a myth. Perfect practice makes perfect. He is promoting a tools using Silva Ultramind to transform your life to reality. There are some new learning by hearing him teaching on one part of his course " Mastering Altered States for Problem Solving & Performance".  There are 4 stages of mind wave.  His introduction is interestingly new to me. He put a sound that represent Beta and Alpha. Visualization is very beneficial to future when you are very sure what you want and how much you want to contribute towards this. I am a person who immersed and soak into anything that can give me some kind of peace of know the direction. There are many gurus out there and to know which is going to help me is a big headache. I will use the technique that Vishen taught in his free lesson to find my answer.

How many of you are in the same situation as me. I am passionate about helping people by coaching them. As of now, I am a very new coach and the culture of being coach is such big barrier. People are not use to open up and without this, it is really not effective for coaching. But I am sure, with the right methods they will be embracing coaching wholeheartedly. I am sure , I will be able to get the reach the result of having 20 coachees per month by end of 2021. In the same time, I will also be able to promote tourism with coaching result. By coaching, I wish to see my coachees achieve their dreams life because they know what they are living for. Wishing me luck in finding these coachees.

Law of attractions

Law of attractions

Law of attractions is really a phenomenon to me. I choose to believe in this since this really create that kind of result, the heart and soul have to be dedicated solely to the cause. Every now and then we behave like a hypocrite. Doing one thing and advising another. In this kind of scene, what can the law of attractions be of use right? The fundamentals of this are tag against the strong belief and constant harping of the issues that might and most of the time happen to give you the satisfaction of practicing this method. How many of us are that diligent or really understand the needs to have this strong power that will not be sway? How many will pin down their mission wholeheartedly in the strong belief that you will succeed? And again, how many really have that kind of power to stay strong after defeat. Law of attractions never promises anything except you to have to contribute a lot to make this a successful action that can bring you the result.

I have written this sometime back and only posting this now. Through my journey in life, many things have happened due to my strong desire to excel and very stubborn assets to win. Luckily, I learn to bow out of things and learn to accept defeat when it's time to do so. There are a few lessons which have helped me to achieve my result in drawing successes. 1. We must be able to do whatever task diligently and wholeheartedly 2. we must believe that nothing remains same and we must go with the flow. 3. Never give up. ALWAYS believe in your ability to perform above your own limits.

How you do this????..........I will share my experience soon.

Time and expectation

COF Day 2 : Time and expectation

Even though it's a short span of a few hours, many things and situation tend to change. What happened to be the blockbuster news have slowly faded away into the background. It will not be the topic of the day anymore. Therefore, time heals everything. Always appreciate your time and respect other people's time too. Missing one minute here and two minutes there might not seem important to you but you still have to respect the time given to you. All things with life have a cycle. Like a flower, it is the product of a seed which over time become the flower which we see. Nobody really notices the growing stage as you yourself also do not know it. In maybe 10 years or more then only you realized that what you have planted is giving you flowers or thorns. I just learned from one of the FB postings that negative comments can draw results. It's how we use the result that will give us the outcome we wanted. The traditional sweet and clean image of presenting all the goods have somehow been replaced by aggressive marketing. People just want to see results, they don't care how you do it as long as you get them what they want. In order to be in this position, the trendy marketing style purely follows the trends. This brings me to the statement below, every day I receive this kind of statement thru one site that I have signed on for free. I am amazed that it always share some thoughts I am having or action that I am taking. It's like another voice of mine. 

Chien: Humility,

Do not forget that in life, nothing remains unchanged and everything evolves through transformation. You must learn how to evaluate every situation with the correct amount of modesty. If you are living a moment of success, re-dimension your enthusiasm; If on the other hand you are waiting for development be patient; everything turns and renews itself.


In the success journey, most of us have to walk alone because the mission to achieve the vision is something only the "creator" knows. Many a time I have been aggressively sharing videos or articles from things that I learned. And many times, I believe people think that I am a little out of scopes. I am one person that like to form my own opinions and sadly most of the time is quite different from the existing thoughts. I for one blame my ancestors for being so old fashion in the education arena. If they are more proactive at farming the thoughts of our people, then we might have better things. But like all things, it's easier said than done. Biting my own words, I believe they have done what they thought is the best at the time and at that era. Imagine the faces of our ancestors if they ever have any women who wear a miniskirt during that time? I believe you know what I mean ya. Well! What we do now might not be applicable for our children and our grandchildren so.............................................WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO?   

Meaning of Birthdays.

Birthdays used to be very important to me because this is the only time presents starts to pour in. As we age, we have more and I need less, therefore, the meaning of birthdays become less materialistic and more valuable in life. Today I am officially 53 years old and counting. Enthusiastically, I enjoy the serene time of being who I am and what I need. For the past 30 odd years, it's all about making things good for others. It's all about what I can do for others because I do not have those things and fell extremely proud to provide it for them. But........a few years ago, I came to realize that what I did is because I wanted to do it out of my own free will and hope for appreciation. It is totally shocking to realize how I mistreated myself for the happiness of others. I could have been richer then but that has not come to my mind. I am blessed to have things that I wanted or more so I thought my help is appreciated.  I no longer seek attention in returns of favors or doing things for others without them asking for it, freely. If they need me, I believe they have to start asking them.

Learning is really an incredible tool. It changes over time even though the thoughts remain authentic. In learning new things, I manage to retrain myself to adapt and change for the betterment of the present. Furthermore, this learning should NEVER stop. Sometimes or honestly speaking my ego does stand in the way of progress. My thoughts stubbornly refused to accept the lesson taught. I am only human too and I have to keep doing self talk to achieve some progress. Part of this is due to the environment where speaking or thinking positively is like a life and death change. In order to be better, I have to swallow my pride and accept reality. I am emulating change and make it my daily routine. Changes can be bad or good but if I don't realize that I need to change then it's definitely my loss. Believe me when I said in this era CHANGES is the keyword. I don't live to be at this age and more and still learning because I have nothing to do. What will I be when I am 60, 70, 80 or more? How can I be independently able and enjoying life if I do not learn now? I do hope those who are young realized that they need to work harder because the technology is catching up faster than their brain. They should learn how to use the technology for their betterment and not let the technology better than them. Parents play a big role in ensuring that all the learnings are skills that are not replaceable. Life is a cycle, what you have accumulated in wealth might not be sufficient for your next generation if you do not farm it thru your children. How many poor become rich and how many rich remain rich? Nobody remains in that status with just one generation of fortune. Wake up and work it out so that you will have a generation of Entrepreneurs.

Stay tuned to my unpredictable writing time. Spend a lot of time learning and writing. Cheers to the moment. ALWAYS LIVE FOR THE MOMENT 活在当下。

Life

What is life? People been heard too say that"Die die die" or "I prefer death than this" . It's the perception that it is easier this way or you thinks they just wanted sympathy. I personally are probe to say the fist phrase many years ago but as I aged, I learn to accept every obstacles  as a bonus. I must be crazy but I believe being crazy is better than death.

I live my life in ways that is very sidebar from most people.  I want to achieve my dreams within this two years.When I did that,I still greed for more life therefore I pray that my calling don't come so soon. As long as I can yak , eat, happy and healthy,I want to life to a great age.

After all I have a very busy guy that give me 15 minute of his time to say hello and goodbye.Therefore,I have so much time to save on 24 hours.I just calculated that I have 350,400,  minutes a year and if I use only 15 minute a  day I still have a lot of space to explore my life. So,I must start to draw my life chart until the end.

Either way, life have to be the best regardless of your status. We should do things that can improve our lives and motivate our youth. Well! I am thinking and planning ardently. Hahaha! I wish everyone successful life as I care for mine.Finally, don't harm anyone or anything that have life.

The above was something I wrote two years ago but not posted. Many things happened but none nearer to mine commitment. This is a total failure because I just stopped progressing. Why? I am also puzzle. As I search my thoughts and actions, I am holding back due to reluctance to see. I worked hard but not smart. I thought by helping others, I can achieve success in my own life because we are team builders. But somehow along the way , I lost my drive. What could have been a success is all just a huff in the smoke.

Serious thinking is needed but my personal "debts" is bogging down all my effort. Therefore, first step is to clear all this dirty linens. Then start loving myself by ensuring I take care of my everything perfectly.

Let's start.