Scary but worth it.

 Finally after months of lockdown, I can finally visit my daughter in Groningen, The Netherland.

Many people asked me, are you afraid of exploring the unknown? I used to fall into the trap of what other people think and what other people say. I now realised that many people think what they know and what they think is good for them should be good for me. Many things I will have done it if I have not been influenced by this stigma of reality which is still controlling many people of our society. How I let go of all this and just use the information shared as an exploration?

Coaching helps. The door of opportunity is never closed but most people allowed the monkey mind to play havoc to their decisions. What will happened if I did not take the advise of others? Will I failed faster or will I succeed? This remain a mystery because the past is just a reminder that I have a life worth exploring.

On many occasions, my clients (some of us address them as coachee but this word is still new in the coaching arena) asked me how I know where they are going in the coaching conversation? How I arrived to address their issues which they did not tell me in actual answers? How I helped them to open doors that they did not know existed?

Interesting right? It is indeed very interesting. This is the beauty of coaching profession. As coaches, we help clients to reach their destinations in a speed that they did not think possible. This is because many people do not even know that they have the capabilities to excel beyond themselves. They kept wondering why they did not see it before . Well! this is exactly how I excel in a speed which I find is the best solution to everyone.I am the recipient of coaching "miracle" which I managed to achieve within these two years just simply by being a good coach. A good listener and an ardent fan of my client's success.

One of my client asked me whether I or not I look for clients who only have problems? My answer is the people who needs coaching are individual that have so much that they forgot where to start. Everyone needs a coach including coaches because coaching culture helps people to explore the essence of their life. It helps them to evaluate things honestly and seek the best value in their life. So, what are you waiting for? Look for a coach who you are comfortable since it is all about what you want in life.

As for me, the best gift from our creator is to make virtual coaching a career for me. Anyone who is virtually possible can reach me too. Just drop me a line for an appointment. No matter where I am, my clients(coachees) is always with me.

If you like to know more about what is coaching, I have shared a video in my website www.3secsoulution.com and you can explore on your own time.

Everything happened for a reason. What makes me say this? Because I know it is the truth and life will be abundance when you discover yourself.

Mirroring yourself

How many of you actually look into the mirror and appreciate what you have? Do you know what a beauty you are? Do you know your own potential?

Many people like to idolized someone but forgot that they are not going to be like the other no matter how hard they try. They live in dissolution and always blaming everything except their own eye sight.

What makes me say this? Well! Because I was like that. I used to admire people with things that I do not have. I discredited my own ability. Yes, I might not be as good at the other person but nothing should stop me from going all the way for it. Is it too late to do so now? There is never too late. Everyone has the same number of hours in a day. Everyone age no matter how old they are now. Therefore, what is stopping one from achieving this?

No one have the power to stop you if you know what you want. The question remains with that individual. Today’s webinar with @AndreaZsapka give me a reason to clear up some air. There are coaches and there are coaches. So, what are this coaching doing to that individual? Are they there to lend a hand or are they there to ensure you know which hand to use?

As a coach, my only passion is to ensure that my client(s) will be able to walk their journey spontaneously and eagerly. They must not fizzle like the sparkling juice bubbles that goes flat after being left alone for some time. Then, they might not need me anymore, right? My answer is yes. Because with each successful session, I hope the I can reach more people than one person with more hours. I just want to be their temporary mirror of their success which they are inspired to drive forward. I wish to see each reach a place of recognition that they want for themselves. My pride is to watch them achieve their dreams. No dreams are too big as long as it is what their inner strength blossom to the fullest.

Am I going to see more people inspired by their own vision? I really do not know the answer. My only prayer is that all coaches will give their best to ensure their clients always are independent to live their life after each session. People who seek for coaching are people who knows they will still need one when their success is going in a new level. They do not hang on the need of a coach as compulsory but as a compliment to their wisdom.

I encourage everyone to look for coaches that really give you clarity on your own vision. Mirroring your vision in silent while you took the whole decision with confident.

I might not know the next journey but I definitely looking forward to the adventure of exploring the next. We only have one life and living it abundantly will be the best present for ourselves. I did and discover the beauty of seeking out through coaching and being coach what I might still left undiscovered. 

Heavenly Pardon Day

 Since today is heavenly pardon day, I seek forgiveness if I have invoke intentionally or unintentionally in my articles. It is purely my sharing of experiences and it might invoke some pain to people who were somehow affected by my sharing.

Well! the secret of my success is not knowing what is success to me. To me it is a sin since I have such a beautiful gift that I call life. Learning to appreciate it is not something easy when all the emotion are outsourced. I used to think that, to love someone is the greatest gift ever. Then I discover that this is not true. By loving them unconditionally, I have cocoon them into dependency and lack of drive to proceed. I only realised that to love unconditionally, one have to start loving yourself. Not selfish kind of love but a pure respect kind of love. Through this kind of practices only, one can share love because of the abundance. It will only grow within and embrace others. If you have not notice it yet, then it is good to give it a chance to grow.

In the day to day life, decisions are made to accommodate many needs. While it is done in the best interest, sometime it just does not turn out right. What makes me say this? It is because a simple message of “Don’t worry” can be translated into an insult even though it is being said with sincerity without any malice. This is exactly why disagreement erupted. And I learned again.

What is your experience on this? Have you ever been blamed for words or actions that you have taken sincerely in the intention of helping and got back fired? Does this stop you from doing the same good deeds again? As for me, I will not stop doing what I think right but I will use coaching questions to ensure that it does translate good intention as a giver.

Give more and you will see.

www.3secsoulution.com visit me if you have time. Coaching is the best tools to communicate in peace.

Coaching Rocks

 

I decided that my past experiences are unavoidable and it only will cause more harm than good. When I join @https://www.soleiltrinity.com/founder in her free courses, I immediately know what I am missing. I have the opportunity of attending her free courses about 5 years ago. At that time, I just go for the sake of knowing something about fungshui. During that time, I was not ready to see and rescue myself from that situations. Maybe. at that time her courses was also mostly on fungshui.

However, life take a turn with the pandemic. I began to see life differently. When a good friend pass away, his words engraved in my mind. He said “ Before you die, LIVE” .I start to ask the questions on many things that I dare not ask before. I thought that what is gone is forever gone. Walao! (Chinese experiences of amazement in a different tone), what I have missed. Thankfully, she came out to give many more free courses with insight into what I was thinking. Is it a miracle happening or is it just pure law of attractions.

The other reason could be the coaching that I had and the coaching that I am conducting for many people. Finally, I decided to open up the dark secret of my life. Some just do not know how to accept that I went through so much and remain strong. In fact, I am also giving myself a dress down on what have I done if I know it earlier. But, some things are meant to happen at certain time of your life. Mine did. I saw it as my way of showing the world that no matter what happened I can survive the test. Time will determine the outcome.

From then on, I passionately involved in any coaching sessions that is available. If I can help one, it is my way of thanking the past for what they have given me. A courage to be different. A place for others to fall back on by reading my story.

Is there any regret? I used to have that but now it is no longer a regret. Like Captain Shan of https://teamcoach.com.my/ reminded us, as coach we are here to help people find the solution in chaos. We are all in this situation somehow or rather.

Do you know what is the reward I love most in coaching? That the participants sparkle with enthusiasm when they found their ah-ah moment. In one coaching session, my coachee’s most wonderful respond when we meet for coaching was this:-

“After two sessions with you, I know that no matter what the problems are, I am sure to have some solutions. The other beauty of coaching is, I start to use good questioning to get some answer.”

I am sure for those coaches out there, this is one thing that makes you motivated towards coaching. I did.

My value in life is to see a community of people using coaching culture as their daily conversation. It is always a rewarding conversation with impactful results even though you are having an disagreement. If I can change a toxic environment to a platform of understanding then we will all have more talents who passionately delivery their ability without fear of failure.

If I can do it, you can do it too.

You are welcome to visit me on my Linkedin @https://www.linkedin.com/in/peggyang8682 

my website @https://3secsoulutioncoach.godaddysites.com/

@https://medium.com/@peggyang868

More from Peggy Ang

Coaching Values to ME

 If you have to dream , then work at your dream. In Mandarin "梦想“ (pronounce as Meng Xiang ). To me it means , I have a dream that I must realized. Dreams teach me a lot because it is me making decisions internally. The trick is to know your dreams translation.

This bring me to topic of not knowing what and how to effectively execute my personal social media. The main reason lie in me. I do social media posting to encourage and motivate people including myself. It is my hope that through the many posting, someone can seek me out to support them using the coaching methods. On the other hand, it will also be beneficial to me. The issues arises from the acceptance level of people on coaching. I will share with you my fear of coaching even now and how I solve them.

1. Ego journey - I believe I am an egoist by practice. Now I keep throwing out by ego whenever possible and that open up the flow to limitless possibilities.

2. Fear of wrong - in my culture being wrong is such an embarrassment. Now I just apologize and be wrong with questioning method.

3. I like to talk more than listen - scare nobody let me talk. hahaha!!!  I changed this by learning to listen more than talk. Still practicing la .Silent is golden.

4. Judge by others - poor,rich, clever, dim, pretty, ugly, snooty, arrogance and the list go on. I learn to let myself go by letting the judgement go. If I have to live in the life people mold me then I will not have my life back. The solution, do what I feel appropriate and appreciate the comments.

5. Culture - I am taught to keep all my feelings, dissatisfaction, helplessness etc as a secret because people will use this as weapons. How I wish? what you think I did on this?

there are more but the fundamental of it are these 5 big issues which I am ironing them out gradually.

A habit is not change if we do not do it regularly. Therefore, I keep doing it and learn from the experience how coaching can help me while I help others.

Look for me if I have any opportunity of sharing experience with you.

 

Passive actively Prosper.

 

Dare to be different? Dare to fail again? Dare to walk out and face risks? All these were my failure factors because I only dare to do it internally. I am lucky to be rescue by situation and 贵人(mentor in life) that make me who I am today. A persons that defy the law of not being normal. Facing the pandemic, holding on to a job is solutions to most. But I decided to let go of a good job and jump into something waiting for me . For the past 5 years, I have been too busy to explore my life and my finances. Pandemic give me the reason and the values of risk empowerment. Why I said risk empowerment? It is because I went into the investment with my eyes open and my brain working. I have evaluated. I like you to check your kitty and see whether you have achieve the following :-

1. risk % is yours to manage.

2. 3% and above profit sharing every 5 weeks in comparison FD only give 1.5% every 1 month and you have to be tie down with an amount.

3. Liquidity

4. 24/7 sharing available

5. most importantly, you earn your money legally and do not need to have friends disappearing when they see you.

If you are interested and are in control of your money, then feel free to contact me. Otherwise just see whatelse you can do with growing your kitty to an international status. Good luck.

Time to grow

 How often we do things that we love? How will you decide when to do it? When you have done those things that you love, what will grow for you?

As for me, I have the chance to explore the world(virtually) thankfully I saw the vast opportunity the lockdown caused. Without the need to travel and wasted time in the traffic, it gives me more time to myself.  It is bad and good at the same time. hahaha!!! you think that you can enjoy things and then you noticed that it is just a dream fulfilled so easily. Then I move on to discover things and activities that I have never do before like muay thai , archery, art jamming and the list goes on. This is how I handle my lockdown so that I can see what to bring to tourism when we are open for tourism. How are you handling this change to the new

Attending Virtual PATA Annual Summit 2021 indeed is good way to look future traveling pattern. Countries are rushing up to get everything ready to welcome tourists and have a foot into the SDG. Solutions, to me is to have a joint efforts in ensuring safety Covid 19 travelers. If I am to travel for leisure, I want to know that in the event I was infected, what will the country of travel do for me. I have not seen any country putting an effort into ensuring the safety of tourists. Well! Not yet. Time is crucial when pandemic like this is not going away.

Should we hide and cry or go out fight and fight? It is all about countries joint effort.