Mindset Beauty

 When I first arrived in Groningen for spending valuable time with my daughter, I did not have any expectation. I learned through self coaching, acceptance of the moment is the most valuable assets I have. Everything becomes a new experience.

Departure gate in KLIA was such a sorry situation. A beautiful gigantic peaceful airport suddenly become a grave yard of emotion. To add damage to situation, my departure time is midnight which added the sense of nostalgia seeing this beauty turns into such a painful for experience. Everything is closed and I kept wondering when our glory will come back. When will people start to travel and start to invest in Malaysia? I hope there is going to be a huge wake up calls to ensure we get back our pride and joy revitalizing Malaysia together as a nation who care for our country.

The experience of arriving into DOHA airport is a total different atmosphere. Everywhere is full of people and bustling with live. This is helping the situation in the pandemic because people just observe SOP and live their life to the fullest.

Upon arrival into Groningen, everything went smoothly. I believe they trust the individual with their own health. Even with Corona Virus, they are still living their life as usual and enjoy the time of being with the community. Each are responsible for their own safety and health. It is a good policy. Nobody can force you to take care of yourself if the depression is outcome of the regulation. They are happy people having very strong mindset of getting healthy. Except in compliance to the regulations, people here just have happiness healthy juice as their daily vitamin. Cycling around in the township with fresh air is enough to boost their energy and live in peace with the virus.

I hope that everyone I know will take responsibility of living to their best and live with the virus in harmony. One thing for sure - Corona Virus is staying. The question is, are you finishing your life or starting your life with this pandemic?

Self Respect.

 I was writing on two other topics and decided to abandon that when this pop up. Monkey mind does have it's advantage when you tame it towards a certain direction. Mine is starting to bloom in ways that I will call this as focus.

In my daily life, there are many expectation. In a recent movie, I am again put into a spot where women have to choose career or family. Family, meaning the full fledge wife and mother with no room for career. These women can work as long as they are home for their children until a day they all grown up and leave home. In some companies they do not encourage pregnancy. They have many ways of doing it because it is still legally right to place a women into cold storage when she cannot travel for business. Do you think in this era there should be more understanding towards the women caught in this kind of dilemma?

Now, hold your horses and don't bite me yet. I am just thinking what can women in this kind of situation do. I am not advocating that we go full storm into protest. It is indeed a 360 degree support that is needed. The family have to contribute towards taking care of the children if the mother are being benchmark for a career path that she wanted. The company, though it is not unreasonable do you think they can at least make some adjustment on traveling arrangements?

I am lucky because I put my life on hold when I had my daughter. I love every moment of it although it can be very difficult at times. I do have the flexibility and support from my family but as a mother, I am fully concentrated on making sure I have every moment with her. Well! 90% of the moment is good enough since life was tough and I need to make a living. I will call myself blessed because from the day that she is conceived, I am always happy. I talked and have discussions with her during the pregnancy that I build the habit of self talk. After she was born, I keep practicing it even though I have weird expression when I do it in public. I just carry on as usual because I do not owe anyone anything. I know she will understand and as she grows, these practices proofed to be effective in her her an explanation to things that is new to her. I am glad I did that because after 21 years, she proof to have listened to all the sharing all those time. So, who says baby do not understand anything. She should have her key at 21 but I have not lock the door since the day she was born. She have her own wisdom and make her own choice. I trust her decision and she do not need the key. Counting down to celebrate my daughter's birthday is the greatest gift ever.

I am not sure how many of you have the same experience whether as a mom or dad or even family members who practices what I did. I must say, the best suffering that is sweetest for me is having the time to see her grow into someone she wants to be.

I wishes all parents have the best of their children time when they are growing up. There are no same moment. You only have that one moment every time.

Therefore, please get back your self respect if you are not treated properly for being a mother or a father during your children growing up phase. You deserve the honor. Salute to all parents.

Decisions.

 This is needed every second of the day. From the time you wake up to the time you go to bed. Interestingly, it can also be frustrating as well as motivating.

What could be the reason for this? For me it is because there are too many choices I used to be extremely busy and every decision make based on the time I have to spend on each task or thoughts. When I took a career break and decided to embark on coaching, these decision making should be easier right? That’s what I thought too. But it is definitely untrue.

I always assigned time for my participants for coaching first before I decide on making other arrangements. However, this can sometime be difficult too. When a participant has some emergency, I am left with a void. Now what should I do? I used to just take another coffee break or start to snacking until the next session. Good decision? Not really. This is because the time I spend preparing myself for the coaching session is not fruitful at all. As a coach, I can only prepare myself mentally to face anything that comes from my participants. I must be 100% present without any other interruptions thoughts in order to effectively hold a successful session with my participant. I do not have a questionnaire ready because the agenda of coaching belongs to my participants too. Now, what you think I should do? I love to hear your opinion. On the other hand, I never push my participants on any timing that is not suitable for them. I need them to be ready for this special moment of discovering themselves. The outcome is always rewarding when they are in this environment during coaching. I am not sure how many of you have been in a coaching session that really give you a boost of energy that comes from within. I have experienced this as a coaching participant and I also have this result when I conduct coaching. To be honest not everyone is coachable. Sometimes, we just hit the wall due to reasons unknown to us but it again picks up momentum when I met them next. Therefore, to have a good coaching outcome I need to meet the participants prior to their first session. The biggest obstacles are when the participants cannot decide what they want from themselves. Make sense to you? It does make a lot of sense to me because I was there before I see it as a value which I need to make proactive decision.

If you want to improve your life, be prepare to face your own devil or devils. The journey will only be successful when you make this million-dollar decision worth your time and your coach’s time.

What makes me decide to put so much emphasis in encouraging a coaching culture? I used to live like no tomorrow but hitting no result. Nowadays, I can have so much freedom in life even with the little hiccup like decisions and appointments. Therefore, I know I am not perfect and I live each day with anticipation. Like one of my participants said “I will look forward to problems because it gives me motivation to look for solution”.

This video shared by @Jespuvan is really a good piece to listen to. https://youtu.be/c-4flnuxNV4

Hope you find what you are looking for. If not, keep looking. It is still waiting for you to explore.

What is Abundance?

 This is a question that some might ask. It is such a meaningful word that will only give purpose when it is fully understood. Therefore, what does abundance mean to you.

From my own point of view. It means that I have to be passionately reflecting on whatever is popping in my monkey mind. Not all learning flow in like a breeze, fresh and sweet. However, the spices of life is to appreciate the ability to see and listen to voices that are giving essence to growth. In fact, the worst scenario gives me the best lesson in life.

I learned to stop instance reaction at time of chaos. At time when people think they are giving you good advice which is truly appreciated. However, we all have our own life even though you might be in the same home or in the same environment. Learning to take proactive action of "Listen, evaluate and act."

It is not easy because most people think they know what is best for you. What makes me say this? Well! I was the same before I embark on the coaching journey. I think that if I do all that I think good and teach the other person what is meaning of life, I will have save them. Oh ! I was so arrogant right?

To help people to grow, I must be a good coach. The purpose of enlightenment is to realise that I am human. I am able to coach people in a way that they also realised that they are human with richness in thoughts and feeling. That they have their own thoughts and they have their own values. In expressing these, they do not need to combat with what is right or wrong. They just need to understand that there are no two persons that is a perfect fit. Even identical twins have different characteristic.

So,who you want to be? When the word abundance is thrown around in conversation,I like you to ask 3 second soul questions. Just find the answer whether it is as verb or a noun to you.

My abundance is simple but not easy. In my abundance, I appreciate the value of others while learning to see the goodness in all actions. I extract what is reasonable and doable in any circumstances. Added to this is the processing of slicing my ego.Is that all? No, there are more because abundance is a journey for me. I will share as I write in my article.

I wish everyone find the answer to their abundance. Find your true North and be the best in being you.

Growing is easy

 Have you ever wonder how you become who you are now? But...... you might not dare to grow further? You want success but you don't want success. Who understand this?

I used to think that this kind of issues should only come from a nincompoop. Well! you are looking at one reformed nincompoop now. I was chasing success and comply to all the needs to be the best in my industry. Sacrifice everything to have this little glimpse of hope. When the opportunities came, I froze. I go into self doubts. I become scare of success. Funny right. But that is how exactly it is. The fear of being very successful is so unreal and I kept telling myself, I can do it. But something is still missing all the time. The heart of this success is missing.

In my chase for recognition , I forgot who I am. I forgot about the purpose of having a life that I love to live. I even forgot, what makes me work non stop chasing after perfection.

Then the discovery begin about 10 years ago. The time , I was lost and searching for answers. A dear friend introduced me to a meditation session and that's when the answers began to surface. When I started the course, I was very scare. I was thinking what if this and what if that. In some way, I was grateful that I did not see what I wanted to see - my inner self. How many of you have this kind of experience? You are so excited that you might find a goal mine inside you but you are having more doubts and fear.

Fast forward, I did what I need to do. Never stop learning and always find out which method is good for me. If you have read the articles I have written, you will understand where I am coming from. My English is so-so, my grammar - what's that but my heart is in the content. That's what I want to bring to you. The heart of everything. Being a coach really make me see things so clearly and I am in control of my life.

Like writing articles and blogs, I always feel that I am not good enough. Even now I still feel that way. This is because I am a human. But the beauty part of it is , I no longer let it be the obstacles towards doing things I love like sharing some photos or video with some contents in #cloudstory and writing articles. People will comments no matter how good you are. Just move out of the persona and be yourself. If you want to do anything, go ahead and give it a go. Life is waiting for you.

Tame your monkey mind and you will be the boss of your life. I am. Hope to see you becoming one. Dare to GROW!

Scary but worth it.

 Finally after months of lockdown, I can finally visit my daughter in Groningen, The Netherland.

Many people asked me, are you afraid of exploring the unknown? I used to fall into the trap of what other people think and what other people say. I now realised that many people think what they know and what they think is good for them should be good for me. Many things I will have done it if I have not been influenced by this stigma of reality which is still controlling many people of our society. How I let go of all this and just use the information shared as an exploration?

Coaching helps. The door of opportunity is never closed but most people allowed the monkey mind to play havoc to their decisions. What will happened if I did not take the advise of others? Will I failed faster or will I succeed? This remain a mystery because the past is just a reminder that I have a life worth exploring.

On many occasions, my clients (some of us address them as coachee but this word is still new in the coaching arena) asked me how I know where they are going in the coaching conversation? How I arrived to address their issues which they did not tell me in actual answers? How I helped them to open doors that they did not know existed?

Interesting right? It is indeed very interesting. This is the beauty of coaching profession. As coaches, we help clients to reach their destinations in a speed that they did not think possible. This is because many people do not even know that they have the capabilities to excel beyond themselves. They kept wondering why they did not see it before . Well! this is exactly how I excel in a speed which I find is the best solution to everyone.I am the recipient of coaching "miracle" which I managed to achieve within these two years just simply by being a good coach. A good listener and an ardent fan of my client's success.

One of my client asked me whether I or not I look for clients who only have problems? My answer is the people who needs coaching are individual that have so much that they forgot where to start. Everyone needs a coach including coaches because coaching culture helps people to explore the essence of their life. It helps them to evaluate things honestly and seek the best value in their life. So, what are you waiting for? Look for a coach who you are comfortable since it is all about what you want in life.

As for me, the best gift from our creator is to make virtual coaching a career for me. Anyone who is virtually possible can reach me too. Just drop me a line for an appointment. No matter where I am, my clients(coachees) is always with me.

If you like to know more about what is coaching, I have shared a video in my website www.3secsoulution.com and you can explore on your own time.

Everything happened for a reason. What makes me say this? Because I know it is the truth and life will be abundance when you discover yourself.

Mirroring yourself

How many of you actually look into the mirror and appreciate what you have? Do you know what a beauty you are? Do you know your own potential?

Many people like to idolized someone but forgot that they are not going to be like the other no matter how hard they try. They live in dissolution and always blaming everything except their own eye sight.

What makes me say this? Well! Because I was like that. I used to admire people with things that I do not have. I discredited my own ability. Yes, I might not be as good at the other person but nothing should stop me from going all the way for it. Is it too late to do so now? There is never too late. Everyone has the same number of hours in a day. Everyone age no matter how old they are now. Therefore, what is stopping one from achieving this?

No one have the power to stop you if you know what you want. The question remains with that individual. Today’s webinar with @AndreaZsapka give me a reason to clear up some air. There are coaches and there are coaches. So, what are this coaching doing to that individual? Are they there to lend a hand or are they there to ensure you know which hand to use?

As a coach, my only passion is to ensure that my client(s) will be able to walk their journey spontaneously and eagerly. They must not fizzle like the sparkling juice bubbles that goes flat after being left alone for some time. Then, they might not need me anymore, right? My answer is yes. Because with each successful session, I hope the I can reach more people than one person with more hours. I just want to be their temporary mirror of their success which they are inspired to drive forward. I wish to see each reach a place of recognition that they want for themselves. My pride is to watch them achieve their dreams. No dreams are too big as long as it is what their inner strength blossom to the fullest.

Am I going to see more people inspired by their own vision? I really do not know the answer. My only prayer is that all coaches will give their best to ensure their clients always are independent to live their life after each session. People who seek for coaching are people who knows they will still need one when their success is going in a new level. They do not hang on the need of a coach as compulsory but as a compliment to their wisdom.

I encourage everyone to look for coaches that really give you clarity on your own vision. Mirroring your vision in silent while you took the whole decision with confident.

I might not know the next journey but I definitely looking forward to the adventure of exploring the next. We only have one life and living it abundantly will be the best present for ourselves. I did and discover the beauty of seeking out through coaching and being coach what I might still left undiscovered.