What have you taken for granted?

 Monkey see, monkey do.

Many people use this sentence but failed to notice that they themselves are an example to the people around them. This is because I was also one of the monkeys until I started to pay attention with clarity on all my actions and speech.

Let me tell you a story. This is the story between my grandniece and her teacher.

Teacher: What is the taste of apples?

My grandniece: it is salty.

Teacher: was shocked.

Then the teacher was curious and asked her parents thinking that my grandniece could have some confusion in taste. 

Do you know why? It is because her grandma always soaks the apples in salt water before letting them consume the apples.

You see. this is what happened. When a good intention changes the nature of anything. 

Therefore, if you come across any disagreements - always get the story from the horse's mouth.

Learning - is it necessary?

 Learning - is good. But using your knowledge is more important. What makes me say this? I went into full learning mode during pandemic because of the need to upskill myself. I have never been so intense in learning since I was super busy with family and business. Guess pandemic stopped me from dying of exhaustion and take time to smell the flowers. How many of you can resonate with this.

Based on historical data humans were hunters and gathers, children are the source of which work, and play is a combination of how one live. When Revolution hit the globe, people are sent to work in the agriculture lands and manufacturing plants. This in turn created landowners and lords. Next came the education system which happened during the 17th century, and it evolved into what we identify as the structure for education now. Then competition was put in as a form of test and exams. A scary phase for a lot of people which caused a lot of nail-biting situations. Depression, hatred, jealousy etc started to flow into the environment of learning. Something that is enjoyable as a tool of survival become a tool of killing emotions.

I like to share a real-life situation of mine. When my daughter was in Standard four of her primary school, her book went missing. She was so worried and decided to tell me. I advise her to confess to the teacher and take whatever punishments that came her way though it is not her fault. I will not go to the school to help her because I know she is capable of handling this on her own. Like an obedient child she has done what I taught her. To my surprise, she was accused lying. That she is making an excuse for not submitting her homework. This is my last straw because I taught her to be honest and be open to accepting any kind of punishment whenever she did anything wrong. To be accused of lying is a big sin for a teacher to do. This I settled with a strong letter to the headmaster. When it was settled, the teacher did not apologize. I accepted that because during that time the elders do not apologies no matter what happened. Two years later, her book appears on her desk. What does this tell you about being good in your education? 

There are cases where children are so stress that they dare not go home because they got a result that is not as good as the last one. They become very stressed and disturbed. 

20 years fast forward, I am glad that this kind of competition have slowly been replaced with understanding. However, I know of people who have their children going to tuition after tuition, special classes and etc. I hope their decisions does benefit the children when they all are in the world of working.

Fun and play are gone. In their place is repetition of hard work in a rat race.  

For the future generation of parents and children's which directions are you taking in view of all the historical data on learning. 

I just wish we have fun, play and learning all well balanced in this world of difference.                                                                                                        

Career create you? Or....

 Interesting to look into our life. Pay attention to your growth. Many people think they are not growing but look at it this way. If you are worst than before, it only means that you are growing negatively or you stopped growing and let others take over you. If you are better than before - Congratulations. You did it.

No matter what direction you are heading, there is only growth. So do not believe it when people say that you never grow and give up. Most people are focusing a lot on the future and the past but forget to reap enjoyment for the present. How many of you are guilty of this? I am.

When everything is happening, we all take advantage and think that it is going to be ok. Do not need to do anything now but plan for the future. For those who are in a stuck state, keep digging into the past and got stuck further into the past. Why does this keep happening when we know that we should:-

1. Learn from the past and let it go.

2. concentrate on the present to get a head

3. aim for the future with clarity

Which part of the equation was missing? You are in a good career and you think everything is going to be fine until you retire. Imagine how surprised you will be when you are to retire earlier. This can be something that is totally unrelated to your performance. When this happened, you start to feel trapped. You start to feel being pushed to the corner. You stop progressing in action though you are speeding ahead in thoughts. All these is call development. However, you feel that you have not seen it before and might fear of the outcome whether you acted on it or not.

The following emotions/feelings might appear: -

Anger- because you felt over worked.

Confused - caused by not being able to make decision.

Scare - when you are unsure who can support you.

Have full control of your emotions and thoughts. Every time you hit the wall, you should be able to bounce back and evaluate the situation.

Remember, no matter what happened you are still the best in what you do when you know why you do it.

Happy weekend.

Symptoms of Early Depression (Wednesday)

 

Adapted from https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/326769

Common symptoms that you should pay attention to in order to notice depression.

Start from the beginning. Depression doesn’t come like a typhoon. It seeps into your life unconsciously.

If it is a habit you have on journaling then use this opportunity to journal down the feelings or emotions you have.

Give a date and time with the situation leading to the 14 symptoms shared here.

 

Suspected Beginning Symptoms	Emotions/Feeling present	Date. time and situation Feeling
Feeling Sad or empty
Felling Hopeless or helpless
Feeling worthless
Felling Excessively guilty
In Interest or pleasure in activities.
Anger and irritability
Feeling Tired and having a lack of energy
Insomnia or lack of sleep
Difficulty concentrating, remembering, and making decisions.
Lack of appetite
Overeating and weight gain
Aches, pains,   and physical symptoms.
Trouble “switching off” the brain
Thoughts of death or suicide.

When all these are present in your life, pay attention and seek help.

Look around you and be as energetic in living in LIFE as ever regardless of the situation.

Feel free to contact me for coaching if you feel you are falling into this trap or if someone you know is falling into this trap. My fees start from MYR100 per 1 hour to MYR1000 per hour.

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When you die, what will life be?

 #richness in #birthanddeath

A solemn topic for most people because death is considered to be sad. Death has always been painted as the end of everything. This is also #taboo to talk about death for many people.

Let me bravely ask you:-

🙇Have you know of anyone who #die before?

🙇Do you know what is the experience of death?

🙇Have you seen the life of people who live but fear death?

Which is more painful? Based on my knowledge the unknown mentioned above is more painful than death. Many people wait at the door of death while they are living. They make arrangements so that they don't have to die. Some are so afraid of dying that they forgot to live.

Yes. I too fear death until I come across an article on how to live because you are dying. Everyone is aware that when there is birth, then there is surely going to be death. Stories people tell are to put fear and be in control of the situation. Years after years, the root cause of fear becomes a dilemma, and totally believe that dying is painful, dying is ugly, and dying must be avoided at all costs.

Now, answer this. Do you think you can stop either birth or death? Maybe birth you can stop by not having any kids but death is unstoppable. 

Therefore, I will pop these questions to you on and off so that you become so alive with motivation when you accept that death will be a #bonus. 

This is also what caused me to be so passionate about embarking on my career as a coach. I help you to live your life with the meaning you wanted at the speed that you need. When you achieve this, every day is an enjoyable challenging, and motivating day. This only happened to people who accepted the fact that living is all about making the best of the life they have. Dying- let fate takes its course. 

Keep living well my friend. There are so many good coaches around to help you through all the difficult moments and you know it and you wanted it. I decided that I will live my life to the fullest because I know dying is a blessing that will come when it needs to come let nature take over. So for now - LET'S LIVE WELL.

#peggyang868 #lifecoaching #birthanddeathvalue #selfvalues #coachingculture #blessingsinlife #livetofullest 

Birth and death - It should comes with blessings. Not Grief.

 There were times that you feel absolutely useless and demotivated. Some people managed to dig out of that with pure determination and pray that they are not hit with another blow within that short period. 

As the cycle of life continues, nobody can stop the events from happening. Be it death or birth. Be it sad or happy. Be it failure or success. The list goes on. The one confirm thing is that when one is born, death is waiting. Do you want to prolong the death or do you want to proceed with living with the knowledge that you will die one of this day?

Based on your observations, who suffer most when the loved one passed away? Take some time to look into this.

I just lost a friend of a close friend. She was not in any way sick but the moment she was hospitalized she was diagnosed with cancer that spread from organs to the brain, she just left the world within days. What causes this to happen? Is it good that she did not need to go through the suffering of treatment and the cost of treatment?

Nobody chooses to be in the situation of grief but it is something that we need to address. 

If the death is unexpected like an accident or the person just well and dandy then the next it's gone. This will normally cause an intensity of feeling loss. Grief will be the response you see in the family and friends.

Modified from Worden, 2009; positivepsychology.com  , the following perceptual experiences, and physical sensations often accompany the grieving processes.

🔮Hollowness in the stomach - a sense of emptiness

🔮Tightness in the throat and chest-look out for those who are having some health conditions.

🔮Being oversensitive to noise- silence is preferred at this moment.

🔮Feelings of unreality-unacceptable to a certain level

🔮Shortness of breath

🔮Muscle weakness and lack of energy - this is why a lot of people might faint

🔮dry mouth

The strong emotions that typically accompany this situation are (modified from Worden, 2009; positivepsycology.com

💔Sadness -unable to accept that death is a fact that caused one to suffer longer.

💔Anger - the dissatisfaction that arises from nowhere that burst into anger of the death.

💔Guilt and self-reproach - many people keep delaying meeting each other until it is too late. Many people left words unsaid until it is too late. When the opportunity is gone with the death, this can cause trauma to one.

💔Anxiety - The sudden emptiness that arises with the passing on of the loved one might cause the living to be lost about what to do. This will then form into anxiety especially when the person who passed away is the stronghold of a family/company/community.

💔Loneliness - this is evident when the relationship between the dead and living is very close-knitted. The one living will feel very rejected to be left behind. Social support is needed at all times until the situation becomes a new normal for the living.

💔Fatigue - The living that is involved might find it exhausting to address the day-to-day life alone. 

💔Helplessness - this can happen as if the carpet is pulled under their feet. They lost all the ability to be in control. This kind of situation is also happening when children left their parents to fend for themselves or vice versa. This is the death of a relationship. 

💔Shock and numbness - this is the normal reaction when it is unexpected. It does not mean that we do not think it is not possible, it is just that nobody can see it happening and it happened. In some cases, the numbness caused the survivor to lose all emotions. It is such a traumatic experience for the survivor too.

💔Yearning - this kind of emotion will keep surfacing whenever the dead are mentioned. It will cure over time depending on the bond of all parties.

💔Emancipation and relief - This is the feeling that I always see in families of those who have been suffering tremendously during their life. They are not relieved because of the death but it is because it ends all the sufferings. This is where peace starts to take place.

How one address grief is different due to the situation presented also might be different. If the grief prolongs then it is time to seek treatment.

I will continue with type of grief in a few days time. For the time being, take time to understand that death will come. Learn how to live life to the fullest so that when death reaches out, it becomes a blessings that we completed our mission on earth and living as human beings.

                                                                     

    Pyace - Pace Your ACE (Accelerate Champion Excellence)

Peggy Ang - Personal Breakthrough Coach

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What is Coaching Industry?

 This is a very broad area? In Malaysia, when you speak on coaching you will most probably have people looking at you with two big eyes as if asking "What is coaching?", "Why do you think I need coaching?", "Do you know that I am perfectly fine without coaching?"

Recently I spoke to a friend who is also a Personal Coach for Biz Entrepreneurs. She told me that a lot of people in China have started to look for coaches and it is in high demand. These kinds of people who look for coaches are people with high potential, good careers, and who advance rapidly toward their goals. 

Then, what is the problem with people who do not do so? They got left behind 1% at a time and it compounded their losses over time. This is because time is the energy of growing one talent. If one person uses the same time to advance while the other is just procrastinating, who do you think will score faster?

You just need to google and you will notice that coaching is a billion-dollar market which spread over all industries. This is one profession that will never run dry or will never let you down no matter which side of the coin that you are in.

Training is teaching you skills that you needed. Consulting is giving you ideas related to your industry and you need to know who is expert enough to be your consultant. This is because the market evolutions are speeding ahead without any consideration of where you are. Mentoring is also a skill that you need from people who knows your needs if not, you will be in deeper trouble than you are now. All these are just part of the needs which were promoted in the market. So, are you confused now?

Do not confuse coaching with training, consulting, mentoring, or therapy. In short, coaching is to help improve people and empowers them to get the outcomes they desire. It is to speed up their process from point A to Point B and face the fall. Yes, everyone falls no matter how good you are. Coaching helps to prepare one from falling badly without any netting. The fall becomes a lesson and advancement in their career. 

Many people want to know what type of coaching is available. The question that you should ask before seeking a coach is as follows:-

1. How much do I want to change/transform?

2. How fast will I want this to happen?

3. What will I need to sacrifice? Time, Money, ego, etc.

4. Will I lose out on anything if I am opening up for coaching? If yes, Am I willing to face myself?

Based on my personal experience, most people failed to move faster or even still stuck because of point 4. 

Find time to write a journal of your life. Write it as clearly as possible and then see how coaching can help you accelerate your achievements.

Good luck with your actions and thoughts thinking process in advancing in your life.

I will share more information on how coaching is the answer to full-blown success for everyone.